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Welcome to More Better, a podcast where we stop pretending to have it all together and embrace the journey of becoming a little more better every day. Or at least trying to. That's Melissa Fumero. And that's Stephanie Beatrice. And welcome. Here we are. Here we are. How are you doing? I'm pretty good. How are you? Yeah? Yeah. I have a weird crick in my neck thing. Like,

Not my neck, but you know the area where like when you get older, you get a little hump? Uh-huh. I have a crick in my hump. Oh. I have a crick in my shoulder. It's really – see, like aging. It's not for the weak. No, it's not. I think I slept weird or there was a child in my bed in the middle of the night and – Sleep weird. Hold a tense position while you're driving too much. If you're driving right now, relax your shoulders. It's fine. Bring your shoulders down. You'll get there. Yeah.

I swear to God, I think it's the wrong pillow. Whatever. It's fine. I'll be fine. I'll survive. I will survive. Have you done anything lately that's a little more better for your neck, perhaps? I went to Pilates yesterday. That was good. That is good. Oh, my God. Is that where I hurt my neck? So stupid. Ah!

On a dumb... Oh, God. That's so annoying. That's so annoying if that's where I hurt my neck. Because, you know, you pay like $20 to go to a... I mean, $20 if you get a deal. These classes are so expensive. They're so expensive. Anyway, I took care of myself and went to Pilates. Let me try to be positive about it. But you felt really good. You moved your body. You went to Pilates. You showed up. You did the thing. Yeah, it was good. That's big. Yeah. You? I also...

Worked out this week for the first time in two weeks. Congrats. Yep. Called my friend and my trainer, Ricky, and I said, I had this day off or this morning off. And he was like, let's do it. And then he teased me the whole time about like, do you remember how to do pushups? Which I enjoy. No, I cannot. Yeah, I know. That's not your vibe, but I enjoy that. I can't do it. Yeah. I can't do a one-on. I can do...

I can do a one-on-one if the trainer is a very positive person. Like my friend Jenna is a trainer and she's amazing and she's super positive and she's like pushy. But I can't do like

standing over you. That's from your dance background. Oh, 100%. You just want somebody standing over you with a cane stomping on the floor. No. And shout out to Ricky. I love him. He's really great. And I think he gets my sense of humor now. So he's like a little more looser with me. But he's definitely like very Eastern European stoic.

And he does. I think he reminds me of ballet teachers I used to have. Oh, my God. He absolutely does. Yeah, that's the vibe. And that's why it, like, pushes me because I'm like, I want to impress you. And that's all it is. Meanwhile, I quit ballet, like, in second grade because I was like, this is hard. I can't do this. I don't want any part of this. Bye. Yeah. Well, listen, we both took care of our bodies, kind of, this quick in my hump.

And my hump, Melissa, it's like right where older people get a little humpy hump. I know, but you don't have a hump. My lovely lady lumps. Oh, my God. My hump is like an old lady back thing that's happening. Your old lady lump. My sexy hump. Your old lady sexy lump in the back. My hump has a crick in it. My back.

What are we talking about this week? We are talking about taking vacations. Yes, because we don't do it very often. I don't think –

Americans in general do it very often, but I think it's really not ingrained in our culture in any way at all. It's really not. No, no. It's weird, isn't it? I think our society makes you feel bad if you go on vacation sometimes, especially if it's a good vacation or a nice vacation. And then there's also the weird social media pressure of people when they post about vacations and that's

also like a weird area. So there's just, I don't know, I feel like there's a lot of like negativity around taking vacations kind of, right? I think you're right. I mean, I think, you know, it's tricky, right? Because not everybody can afford to take time off of work. And I want to talk about that too, because like, you know, when I was a kid, my family couldn't.

We never went on vacation. It was like our vacation for us was maybe we drive to Galveston that day and like spend the day at the beach, like a weekend day at the beach. And that was the vacation because we couldn't afford to go anywhere. Like we just couldn't do it. You know, the first vacation, family vacation that we ever took, I was 15 and we drove from Houston to Orlando, California.

That was fun. That was so fun. Four of us in the car. Two teenagers. Oh, it was a long drive. Did you do it in one day?

I think we did it in two days. I remember sleeping in the car. Like, I remember we were asleep in the back of the car, me and my sister. I think we were parked at a, like, a travel, you know, like one of those state travel stops or whatever. Right. I don't recommend. This is probably really dangerous, but I think that's what my parents did overnight. And then...

We drove to Orlando. And then, you know what they did? God bless them. They have these things where, like, timeshares will sit you through, like, a six-hour timeshare presentation. But then at the end, they'll give you passes to Disney. Yeah. And my parents did that for us. They sat through one of those fucking things for, like, six hours. You know, said no, said no, said no. And then got four park hopper passes. And that's what we did the next day. We went. So sweet. Yeah.

It's very sweet. But it's hard. It's hard for like working people to take vacations. You know, my mom was, she was working in a hotel at the time. My dad was, I think at the time he was driving trucks. So like it was hard for them to get time off. You know, it's like, so on one hand, taking vacations can be really stressful because it's like, oh, how are we going to like do this? Like, how are we going to have the money to do this? The time to do this? You know, it's almost like a stressful experience to,

around a thing that's supposed to be relaxing. That's supposed to be good for you and be relaxing. Yeah. I was really lucky growing up. My dad always had his two weeks vacation and

And we went to Miami every summer. Oh, wow. And we would stay in my grandmother's – well, when I was really little, we actually a couple summers stayed in one of those like Art Deco hotels on South Beach because this was before South Beach was like South Beach. Oh, my God. Yeah.

It was – and they were such cool buildings. And then, like, you just cross the street and the beach is right there. And then – Oh, that's so sick. But this was, like, they weren't, you know, remodeled yet. They were old. Like, South Beach was pretty empty. Like, it wasn't the scene that it became – because once that became that, my parents were like, oh, we can't afford that. Yeah.

That is so – what a sentence. But I remember staying in those hotels and being like, this is awesome. This is so cool. That's so cool. And we would go every summer because my mom's siblings lived there and my grandmother lived there. And then we stayed in my grandmother's condo a bunch of times. There was another time where my dad found an apartment to – I think maybe it was through someone he knew or something. Yeah.

Yeah. And we would just squeeze into like small apartments. My brother and I would sleep on a sleeper sofa or on the floor. Yeah. And we'd just go for two weeks and we'd see the family and we'd go to the beach every day. And that was – and then there were – when I was older, around 10 or 12 –

There were a few summers where these family friends, we went on these big group vacations. We went to Dominican Republic. We went to Cancun once and then we went on a cruise once. And so it was like a bunch of kids, like five families. And that was the first time I saw my mom drunk. Yeah.

They had a kids club. I didn't see my parents except when we would land somewhere and like go do stuff. But when we were on the ship, I did not see my parents. I was like, this is the best vacation ever. And so the parents were also just like partying down, getting lit. That is so crazy, man. Like I cannot even – my parents were like –

You have to hold my hand until I was like 15. I cannot imagine like roaming a cruise ship on my own with a group of kids. Yeah. That is wild. Isn't that crazy? Isn't that crazy? I was just like, it was the best. But yeah, it was so much fun. We did those. Yeah, we did like two or three vacations with that group. And then, yeah, we went back to going to Miami. Yeah.

You know what's funny? Now as an adult, it's like...

You know, you think about when we were kids, it was like, this is fun. We're going on vacation. But now as an adult, I'm like, oh my God, this is not a vacation. You know, like this is not with children. Oh, with children? It is and it isn't. You know what I mean? Like with kids. It's not. Like I can see why your parents were like, go to the kids club. A hundred percent. It's not a vacation unless there is a kids club, to be honest, when you have children. Yeah.

And like there is this Huffington Post article a few years ago that went viral. A bunch of moms had like sent it to me. And it's so funny because it's so true. It's called Vacation or Trips, A Helpful Guide for Parents. And I'm just going to read you a few quotes because it's so spot on. If your final destination has a kitchen, you are not on vacation. You are on a trip. Oh, my God. So real. Yeah.

So real because you have to fill up that kitchen with snacks. Yeah. And you have small children, especially if you're going with a baby and you're like, we got to store milk or breast milk or formula. We need a fridge. We got an Airbnb. We can't stay at a hotel. You are on a trip. Do you remember when you were like young and free and it was like, oh, there's a kitchen. Let's fill it with booze. Yeah. Not anymore. Let's fill it with breast milk. Call in the front desk. Can I empty this mini fridge to put some snacks? Mm-hmm.

If you are in a hotel room with two double beds, trippity trip trip. It's so real. If you are going to the airport or visiting an aquarium, trip. If you are touring a battlefield in 90 degree heat, you're on a trip. If you are doing a jigsaw puzzle, trip.

How dare you? How absolutely dare you? I will contest that last one because how luxurious to like just be in a rental house or in a hotel room doing a puzzle. Doing a jigsaw puzzle? Yeah. That's heaven. Yeah. Heaven. We did the Loteria jigsaw puzzle the last time we were on vacation and we were like focused on it. I've never been so close to my family. It was like, we're going to beat this thing together. You know?

That's so real. But yeah, it changes when you have children. And as funny as that article is, I have to say it did help me – it helped me kind of just reframe things I do with my kids, trips. Yeah. You know? And for David as well. Like it really helped him just like, okay, we're not necessarily going to relax. I know. Unless there's a kids club.

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Text BVJOBS to 97211 to apply. That's the thing about like vacation is like you're supposed to relax, right? Like that is the whole point of it. But you still have to parent. Life with a job and all the people you take care of and all the responsibilities that we have, it's like...

Finding, for me, sometimes it's like I don't have the ability to go on a vacation. So I'm trying to treat little things I do during the week like a mini vacation, but it's not the same. It's almost like you need multiple days in a row where you're not thinking about your life. You know what I mean? Yeah, man. Yeah. Because they're really good for you. They're really good for your...

I don't know, everything, your well-being, your everything. It's like, I don't know. I mean, I love them so much. I do too. And I feel like it's when I do get it and, you know, also the other thing that's really hard when you have kids is like trying to do any sort of getaway with your spouse or your partner. Yeah.

Without kids. That requires – No, it's really hard. Like David and I try to get one in once a year and it usually is when my parents come to visit or if we go to see them and we can leave the kids with them and just do like – and it's usually just like a night or two and it's – we're driving somewhere. But I will say that those little mini trips are –

incredible. And like we feel the effects for a long time. You know what I mean? Like it can be a short thing. Sometimes just a weekend is like such a reset and such a, you know, spending that entire Saturday from the moment you wake up till you go to bed with your partner with no kids. It's so rare. And then when you just get that one day, you're like floating from it.

For me, for like a while, like I feel it for a long time, you know? And it reminds me like, oh, this is really important. I really have to try to make this happen at least once a year. Side note, imagine our kids listening to this someday and just like crying at therapy about it. Like, ah! That makes me, and she always wanted to leave on vacation. No, that's not true. I just need a minute. I'd be like, just wait till you have your kids and you'll understand. Yeah.

Yeah. I mean, like, but also I can see that, like, a lot of my friends that are childless, that have chosen childless lives also really benefit from taking time away because it's just like letting your life go. Our mutual friend, Lena, who...

told me once, she was like, yeah, you need to like, you need at least, I think she said four days. And I was like, four days, Lena? I can't, I don't know where I'm going to get four days. But she was like, well, the first three days, you don't really, you're not really acclimated to the vacation by the fourth day. It's like, your body just like settles into the relaxation mode. And I think she's right because I have had, I was like,

Right after my dad died, I went on like a retreat. And it was, I think it was six days. And she was right. By like the fifth day, I was like, oh, wow. And I was able to deal with all the stuff that I hadn't been mentally able to deal with because life was just like coming at me, you know? Yeah.

I think she's right about it. I don't know. I mean, who knows? I think that's a really... They've done studies. They've done studies. There's some studies. Do you work on vacation? Do you leave your phone? Like, do you read it? Are you up in those emails and stuff? Well... I feel like I have to be. Yeah. I mean...

I definitely think there have been times where I've told my manager, like, don't contact me. I am off. I'm on Mars. I'm on Mars for five days. But then they're like, hey, so I know you said, but this is a really good opportunity. I just wanted to send you the sides. Yeah. But 90% of the time we are traveling with a mini-tour.

fucking tripod and right you know with a little tiny travel ring light just in case smart I have never done that that's really smart I have like a little one that like fits easily in a suitcase and it's like a really small me the link I will send me the link because you know I had an audition for I don't know if I can say this name

For something impressive and big? It was something impressive and big. It was. It was for a movie. Oh, okay. That didn't end up getting made. Anyway. I think I auditioned for that too. Yeah. The morning. The morning of my dad's funeral. The morning of my dad's funeral. And I was like, I don't think I can do this. I'm like, can she do it any other day? And they were like, it's not.

She doesn't change her schedule. And I was like, okay. All right. Okay. I will never do that again. I will never ever do that again. Yeah. Because life is like some things like emails. Yes. You can answer them on vacation. But like, I will never put myself in the position again where I'm on like a trip.

or a vacation where I know in my heart that I shouldn't do that work thing and I do it anyway. You know what I mean? Yeah. I can't believe you did that. I was really good. But I think, I bet you were. It was a callback. That's right. It was a callback. That's why I did it. Oh, that makes sense. That makes sense. I get the pressure of, yeah, when you're like close to something and everyone on your team is freaking out and

But I think is that part also of like when we are in some type of time off or vacation or trip that we feel guilty if we totally disconnect? If we totally are like, I'm not available. Don't bother me. Like, right? Yeah. It's I think especially as.

Because essentially we're gig workers. Like when we were younger and like struggling actors, David and I didn't take any trips because we were always scared of missing an audition, always scared of missing an opportunity. And we took very, very few trips or vacations. Yeah. I don't think I did anything for a really, really long time. Like it was, you know, maybe I went on like a day trip to Disneyland or something, but I didn't do anything.

Like, no. I think, yeah, anyone that's a contractor or gig worker that you don't necessarily have, like, official paid time off. Yeah. I don't know.

Even if you can afford it, you just have to say, like, I'm unavailable for any jobs that come up these two weeks or this week. And it's scary to say that, right? It's like... It's kind of impossible, I think. Depending on, like, your place in life. I feel like now, like I said, like now, as an...

I don't know. What do I want to say? Are we elder millennials? Is that what we are? God, I fucking hate that phrase so much. As an elder millennial with a hump. I hate even calling myself a millennial because it's like... I don't mind it. It's fine. I don't care. I just also just hate all of them. But anyway, go ahead. In the way of like...

I don't care. I kind of am at the point where I'm like, I don't, I can't. If I, if I have scheduled out like two days to be away, I'm going to take them, you know? Like I'm going to take them come hell or high water. I'm not going to, you know, I'll pick up my phone for an emergency or something and I'll reply to friends texts. But if it's like, Hey, we need you to come back. Like, I don't think so, man. Like I really can't like there's,

maybe that job is just not for me. Maybe it's not mine. Same. It's taken 20 years, but I finally have gotten to that point as well where I'm just like, no, I will just be okay with saying no to all the things. It happened actually a couple summers ago. I think that was the first time that I... It was a little indie comedy movie that I really wanted to do. We were in Florida. Yeah.

with our kids and our family. And they wanted me to come back early and cut the trip short.

To audition? Or like – No, to do it. To like shoot. To do it. And I basically said – I think I bowed out like twice. I was like – Well, then – And it was so scary to do because I was like putting all this – It was kind of like the first little thing I did after Brooklyn ended. And so I was like, oh, I need to like get this ball rolling and momentum, all this stupid shit we tell ourselves about our career. Yeah, yeah. That dumb stuff. And I –

And my family was looking at me like, we're going to go home like early? Like what? And then I put my foot down and I said, you know what? This is not for me. Like just give it to someone else. Like I got to just listen to my gut. It's another topic we've talked about. Yeah.

And then they ended up working it out. They ended up changing the date. Did they really? Yeah. It ended up like it took them longer to cast another role and everything ended up working out and I got to stay and it was all this kind of stress for nothing in the end. So it worked out. It worked out, thank God. But I think that moment of empowering myself to be like,

I'm going to say no and I'm just going to let this one go and trust that like another job will happen and come. Yeah. Was like a moment for me of like, yeah, this is how I think I need to be from now on. Like I've worked really hard to get where I am in this phase of my life and I need to prioritize this.

The things that are important to me and my family and, you know, and that time, that family time, that trip time is important. It's important for all of us. Like we bond. Yeah, because you don't get it back either. My boys get along better on trips. Like it's really good for their relationship. And they're little. And they're little. They're like little now. Yeah. They like want to go places with you. It's like you want to take advantage of that. Yes. Yeah.

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Also, sometimes, like, when they're like, tell me what to do, I'm like, that is mental work for me to make you a list. Do it yourself. Brad is much better about that now. But, like, I cannot. I am, like, I don't know if I have undiagnosed, like, something, ADHD. But, like, I need another person sitting in the room with me to pack my suitcase. Otherwise, I cannot. It takes me hours, Melissa. Hours to pack one suitcase. It is hard.

I cannot focus. I'm like, I cannot. I cannot do it. I also wonder sometimes if I have something undiagnosed. I hyper focus on my packing. Oh my God. But then I also, like a little squirrel will like,

do tangents in my packing. So like, I'll be like packing the boys bags and then I'll like go to the kitchen to like fill up my coffee mug and I'll be like, oh right, snacks. And then I'll pack another bag with like snacks and I'll get on this like packing tangent. And then I go back to the suitcase and I'm like, where was I? Oh right, this. And then, you know, and that's, and it's like all these little side trips. That's what's hard about packing.

packing, but even when I make a fucking list, I'm like, you know. I always have a list, yes. And then love to roll the little clothes. Everything is like super neatly packed, organized. I heard that you're not supposed to roll. Why? I heard you're supposed to like lay flat and fold because it takes up more space if you roll. I feel like it takes up less space if you roll. I feel like I fit more things if I roll. I don't know. I just, I'm really trying. I'm really trying to like...

To do... Like, okay, so we have a vacation coming up. Brad and I are going to... We're going out of the country. That's right. Which is really, really exciting. And you have beautiful red nails. We're going to keep that. Yes. Oh, thank you. I just got my manicure, my vacay manicure. It looks really pretty. Thank you.

I'm trying to like mentally put together like a, like a vacation wardrobe. And I'm, I'm so, I feel so much anxiety about my vacation wardrobe. I wish, I wish, I wish I was a different person. You know what I mean? Like, I wish I was like,

I wish I was the kind of woman that was like, all my clothes are chic and neutral, but I'm not. I'm, you know, I have like,

four different vintage bowling shirts that I want to take with me. And I don't know if any of them match. You know what I mean? Like, I just am not. I have a really hard time narrowing down vacation clothes because it's not how I normally dress. Like, normally I go in the closet and I'm like, okay, what's the inspiration? You know, like, what is the weird one thing that I want to wear today? And then I build the outfit from there. But, like, when you're on vacation, you're down to, like, ten things that you can fit in your bag.

Carry on. And I'm not checking a bag to go to Europe. I have seen the TikToks. It is a mistake.

Smart. So like I'm bringing one bag. But it is. It's really stressful to plan outfits ahead of time. I don't. I can't. It's really hard. I feel like some people are really good at it and it is not a skill that I have in my arsenal. I'm wearing the same tank top three days in a row. Like that is stinky. I did buy like little... I will say this. In terms of prep, I am...

Listen, I'm great at shopping. I am good at getting on Amazon and being like, we need these little... I bought these little packets that you can wash clothes in the sink. I bought one of those. I bought like an emergency medical kit. I bought medicine, like little packs of... I had like Advil, decongestant, sinus medication. Because I was like, I'm not going to be in Italy. I'm not going to be...

I'm not going to be in Italy with diarrhea trying to like find a drugstore and being like, bonjourno. I don't even fucking speak Italian. Like, diarrhea-o. Like, what the hell? How do you say diarrhea in Italian? I don't know. I don't know. I just did what people do to us with Spanish. Yeah. I added an O. Yeah.

Oh, no. I'm sorry, Italians. That was fucked up. I'm so sorry. I apologize for my... I mean, how do you say it in Spanish? It's probably pretty close to... You probably could actually get... In Italy, you could get away with just speaking Spanish and probably most people would half understand you. I don't know. I'm not sure. I think you should try it. I mean, I could try. Can you do an experiment and send me some videos from my own...

God. You know, my Spanish accent is pretty deece. My Italian accent is sad. Okay, I want to talk about, because I did read some stuff about vacations and how good they are for your mind and body. Oh, yeah. Let's get into the nerd corner. Is that what we're calling it? The nerd corner of a 7-in-Mosa. So...

I read this study. Okay, it was a small study. 63 different workers eligible for paid vacation attended a lab visit during which their blood was drawn, and they also did an interview assessing their vacationing behavior in the last 12 months. And

Their metabolic syndrome, which is like, okay, so let me read you this. Metabolic syndrome. This is related, I promise. Hold on. I'm into it. I'm following and I am interested. Please.

metabolic syndrome is a cluster of conditions that increases the risk of heart disease, stroke, and diabetes. Metabolic syndrome includes high blood pressure, high blood sugar, too much body fat around the waist, and irregular cholesterol levels. Latinos are at increased risk of metabolic syndrome, which is like, that's really scary to think that because we're working hard. I mean, I think about like my parents, um,

Me too. The grind culture. I'm working hard. I'm like, oh, I can't afford to take vacation. I can't afford to. It's like, I can't afford not to actually. Like if I want to be around for a long time, this study basically said that all of those people that were actually taking vacations, they lowered their risk of metabolic syndrome. Whoa.

Like their blood showed they were at lower risk of metabolic syndrome. Because when you go on vacation, you're calm, you're relaxed, your blood pressure's lower, you're walking a lot, you're resting more, you're sleeping more. Even like a small increase in the amount of sleep that you get helps your metabolic rate. Like, isn't that... That's wild. It's like a health, like it's an actual health...

Like, it's a risk that you're putting yourself at risk if you don't take time to rest and vacation. Isn't that fucked up? Girl. It's so fucked up because, like,

My brain tells me, like, you're so lazy for doing this. Like, how dare you, like, leave for a week and go to another country? Like, what are you doing? Like, what opportunities are you leaving behind? What about your kid that you're, like, leaving with your mom and sister? Like, don't go, don't go, don't go. How about you're going to be around longer for your kid and you're maybe going back and be even a better parent to your kid because you had a moment of rest.

rest and rejuvenation. And like we think of health as so much bigger than just like

What we do day to day, it's, I think, these big moments we take for ourselves. And it's such a good reminder, like, to hear something like that of, like, this has real effects on your body, on your longevity, on... There's this ripple effect that happens, you know? Yeah. And it's such a good reminder of just, like, don't fucking feel guilty, man. Go on the fucking trip. Figure it out. Go on a trip. Go on a trip. Go on a trip because, like, life is short. Life is short. I mean...

You know, like, even if it's just simple camping or it's, you know. No, camping. Well, I'm thinking of like things that don't cost a lot of money, like to do things that are like you can do on the cheap, you know, or like. The beach. The beach I'll do. Camping. No, I can't. Same. I'm not. No, I'm city as fuck. Pee in the woods. No.

I went camping twice with my brother. My brother's really big into camping. But he does like camping light. And we did like a campground that was by a river that had bathrooms.

And he puts an air mattress in a tent and he brings like a little grill. Lamping. And it was like glamping. I love it. That's nice. Amazing. But there's nothing that could ever convince my husband to even do glamping. As city as I think I am, I'm married to someone who is even more city, but also will like go into the middle of the ocean and be fine. Like he's that kind of guy. Yeah.

He's selective about his nature. His nature, yeah. But yeah, it's got to do it. We got to get out there. Do you feel like you learned anything today? I mean, I feel like you're saying it right now. You got to do it. Yeah, I just feel kind of motivated to...

Make it a priority and do it. Make it happen. It's important. Yeah. It is important. Thanks, because I think I was feeling very guilty about going. Oh, my God, girl. No. Drop the guilt. Your kid's going to be great. She's going to have a great time. She's also going to have her own little vacay with her tia and her family. And you guys are going to have an amazing time and just enjoy every second. And your clothes are going to look fabulous. Yeah.

Okay. And you're going to send me videos of you speaking Spanish to Italians. And it's going to be great. If you're Italian, please write in and let us know how you say diarrhea in Italian because I would really love to know. Not that I'm going to need it because I have my... But we want to be prepared. A moment that I'm taking with me. We want to be prepared. Just in case. Just in case. Just in case someone else has diarrhea.

While I'm... We know what to... No one's going to get diarrhea. The food in Italy is incredible. What am I talking about? We're like going to... Listen, you can... I can't wait. I don't know. I can't wait. But also like it might just happen. Yeah, it's fine. It's fine. I'm prepared. I feel like I learned... What? God, I can't believe I said diarrhea so many times today. I...

Wow. Sorry if you're listening to this with your kids. Do you feel a little more better? I do feel more better. Do you feel more better? About vacay? I do feel more better. Yeah, I do. I feel a lot more better about vacation, especially since we discussed all these, you know, the reasons in favor of. Agree. And I love that. Yeah. And I'm excited for your trip. Me too. I'll bring you back something. What do you want? Food? Food.

Yeah. Bring me back up. I'll bring you like something from Modena. That's where we're going. Modena. Oh, yeah. We're going to like the food center of Italy. Like there's literally an Italy theme park. Bring me a bottle of something. I don't care what it is. Bottle of something. Great.

Melissa, you'll have to post it on your Instagram so people can see what I brought you. I will. I will. Okay. All right. All right. Bye, friend. Love you. Bye, friends. Bye. Do you have something you'd like to be more better at that you want us to talk about in a future episode? Can you relate to our struggles or have you tried one of our tips and tricks? Shoot us your thoughts and ideas at morebetterpod at gmail.com. And include a voice note if you want to be featured on the pod. More.

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