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Take Control of Your Mindset: Master Your Mental Habits for a Happier Life

2023/4/20
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The Mel Robbins Podcast

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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Mel Robbins: 本期节目探讨了如何通过重新规划思维模式来掌控自己的心态。她强调,与其试图关闭消极的思维,不如用积极的思维模式来替代它,如同更换播放列表一样。她还指出,父母灌输的消极思维模式往往源于他们自身的经历,子女可以通过识别并挑战这些模式来打破循环。她鼓励人们相信自己值得快乐,并将其作为一种信念来改变生活,每天早晨告诉自己“我值得快乐”能够带来积极的改变。许多人从小就被教导要取悦他人,而忽略自身的感受,将自我照顾与他人情感联系起来的恐惧,是人们不敢将自己放在首位的原因。给消极的内在声音命名,并直接反驳它,可以削弱其影响力。父母的消极教导往往源于他们自身的经历和局限,成年子女有责任重新规划自己的思维模式。要将消极的思维模式替换成积极的信念,并不断重复这些信念。思维模式的改变会影响到个人的信念、行为、习惯,最终决定一个人的成就。在处理与父母的关系时,尝试理解而非指责,可以减少压力,改善关系。通过改变自身的行为,可以改变与他人互动的方式,从而产生积极的连锁反应。关注与自身的积极关系,是自我疗愈和改变的关键。自我同情是自我接纳和掌控人生的关键。 Poppy: Poppy分享了她从小在充满批判的家庭环境中长大,导致她对自己非常苛刻的经历。她寻求帮助来改变这种消极的思维模式,并希望能够摆脱这种自我批判。通过与Mel Robbins的对话,她学习到如何识别并命名她内心的批判性声音(Vicky),并学会反驳这些声音,逐渐建立积极的自我认知和自我肯定。她意识到,她过去对自己的苛刻源于父母的教导,而她现在有能力去改变这种模式。她开始学习接纳自己,并相信自己值得快乐。 Diane: Diane讲述了她长期生活在充满自恋型人格的人身边,导致她认为所有事情都是自己的错。她寻求帮助来改变这种消极的思维模式,并希望能够摆脱这种自我责备。通过与Mel Robbins的对话,她学习到如何识别并挑战她内心的消极声音,并学会用积极的自我肯定来替代这些声音。她意识到,她过去对自己的苛刻源于自恋型人格的人对她的影响,而她现在有能力去改变这种模式。她开始学习接纳自己,并相信自己值得快乐,并开始学习区分外部负面评价与自身的价值。

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Poppy seeks advice on how to silence the critical voice in her head, a legacy from her critical parents. Mel Robbins guides her through the process of identifying and replacing this negative soundtrack with a positive one.
  • Poppy's critical voice is a result of her parents' programming.
  • Mel suggests naming the critical voice to distance oneself from it.
  • Poppy learns to replace negative thoughts with affirmations like 'I deserve to be happy.'

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In this episode, you’re learning a simple but powerful way to take control of your mindset. 

You need to get serious about your mindset. The way you think and talk to yourself has serious consequences.

Your thoughts become your beliefs.

Your beliefs turn into actions.

Your actions become habits.

And your habits determine who you are and what you achieve in life, or not.

That’s why you need a Mindset Reset.

Imagine if your thoughts were positive, empowering, clear, and encouraging. Imagine if your beliefs inspired the best in you.

If you’re tired of listening to a voice that beats you down, fills you with doubt, and argues against your goals and dreams, it’s time to change your thinking.

Today, you’ll learn how to do it for yourself and start programming a more positive, empowering, and confident mindset.

So pull up a seat as I coach two people through the process.

I’m so confident you’re going to be fired up after listening to this episode that I have a free gift to help you take your current mindset to the next level.

I have a brand new, free, 3-part training called "Take Control with Mel Robbins)."

It will provide you with the coaching, structure, and support you need to hit reset, take control, and level up your life.

It features 3 brand-new training videos, two hours of research-backed curriculum taught by me, and a 21-page workbook. Plus you’ll be with hundreds of thousands of other students taking the course for free around the world.

All at zero cost to you. Why? Because you deserve it, and it’s my way of thanking you for being here with me.

You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. Why not take advantage of this opportunity? I’ll see you in the course)!

Xo Mel 

In this episode, you will learn:

 

  • 5:00: What does your default critical soundtrack sound like in your mind?
  • 7:30: Here’s the mantra I want you to start your day with. 
  • 9:45: This is one of my easiest and favorite tools for dealing with a critical voice.
  • 16:00: This is the #1 hit playlist I want you to put on repeat. 
  • 17:30: Drop this word if you want to improve your relationship with others.
  • 22:30: Work on the most important relationship of all first.
  • 24:15: What if your critics are the voices of your boss, partner, and friends?
  • 26:25: This trauma response is very common when you live in a state of anxiety.
  • 30:15: Here’s why telling yourself that you love yourself doesn’t work for you.
  • 32:00: Yes, your boss may be a douche, but you don’t have to let that ruin you.
  • 35:00: Don’t leave today without taking away this message.

 

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