The Best Years of Your Life Are Ahead of You: A No BS Approach to Feeling Stuck
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Head to your nord stream rack store to score great brands, great Prices, the greatest gifts of all time. Hey, it's a friend mail, and welcome to the mail. I'm so glad that you join me today because i'm going to prove to you today that anywhere in your life that you have a problem or your stuck or your struggling or you just can't get the results so you want, I guarantee you're working on the wrong problem.

You're tacking IT all wrong that there is something deeper that you're not seeing is below the surface. And today I got my shovel. We are gona dig deep, and we are gonna to the root of the problem.

I have been doing this now for a decade. You guys write to me from around the world, and I read everything that you submit to ml. Robin, start com.

And i've noticed something in the last decade s since i've been coaching people. Everybody is working on the wrong problem. You can even see IT.

And one of the things that I am able to do is I can listen you for just a little bit and bomb laser right in to the root of IT. And so we're going to get to the root of your problem today. And here's we're going to do IT.

I'm going to bring in a metaphor. And the metaphor is gardening. I love gardening.

By the way, IT is one of my favorite hobby. My parents were big gardeners. I grew up working in the yard every single weekend. My grand parents and my and and uncles on my mom sider all farmers. So dirt and dig in in the dirt and growing stuff is in my DNA.

And I think about the issues in your life that you can't seem to overcome or they keep coming back over and over and over again. It's like weeds in a guard. And so i'm going to tell you a story because you're attacking the weeds all wrong too.

You can just pull weeds out. You gotta dig him out of the root othe wise. They keep coming back. And this is why I say you're working on the wrong problem. You keep pulling at your problems, tugging atam, clipping, adam snipper, atam, whatever, hitting them with a round up that's not going to kill him. You got ta destroyed at the root.

And I remember there was this one moment when we still lived in boston, and I started to notice that there was this particular weed, the cup coming up in my garden IT was about a foot all in IT looked like the kind of grass you would see um you know, like in the sides of a golf course, you know that fescue that's like a foot tall and IT blows around. Well, this stuff started showing up in the middle of my fricking montalto Daisy and my p nies and my irises. And I like, what the hell? And so I yank IT out of the siberia rises.

Then I turned around like, what? How the hell is IT over there in the p like, is this bird seed that scared red about what is going on? Why is this weird stuff sprouting out and was just like this clump over here and then climb over here? And this is, come over here.

And I like, what the hell and so one day i'll never forget IT. I've been raining for like a week and so the first Sunny day I get out there and like, oh my god, there's these columns everywhere. They just bomb because what happens? Uh, things grow when you water IT.

Things in your life change when you tend to IT. So I start with the irises. And instead of just yanking IT like I Normally did, which is basically just ripping IT off at the surface, I just sort of I started tugging.

And as I started tugging, the root started coming out, and then I started shaking at IT. The dirt started shaking off. And I take my travel, and I start easing. Rox, I want to slice the root.

I need to get to the source of IT, right? Otherwise, what happens when you just trim something, when you cut IT off at the surface? Well, that just empowers the roots to start brought up other things.

Well, i'll be damned to guys. I get the shovel and I dig underneath and I start pop in IT up. And because the soil is wet, it's a lot.

Loser, this fucking route went from my irises all the way under our lawn to the other flower bed ten feet away to pop up another clump into the pennies. And that same dam root was also the source of the clump of rescue that was now growing in my daily and in the fox. And I couldn't believe IT IT was all coming from the same route.

And if there's one thing i've learned in a decade of coaching people and all of the research that i've done is that when IT comes to the things that aren't working in our life, we have such a low tolerance for going deep that we just try to remove at the surface. And then all the sudden you're dating another loser. All of the sudden, the same ship with your mother showing up.

All of a sudden, the same wound from your childhood getting triggered. why? Why does this keep happening? I'll tell you why you're working on the wrong problem because you're just trying to clear away at the surface you're missing the bigger picture.

These problems are connect. There is a root cause that you need to dig out. And today i'm in a teacher.

How to do IT, a fellow listener of the male Robin's podcast, wrote to me, Ricky, she's forty four. SHE is stuck on the outside. Her life looks amazing.

The gardens beautiful, right? But SHE can't get where he wants to go. SHE feels like she's lost a part of herself.

Ves SHE doesn't know what the house go on on. All your friends think her life looks great, but it's not. And let me tell you some, she's working on the wrong problem.

But melrose has a shovel and i'm gonna dig deep and wait till you discover what I find because IT comes out nowhere. You're ready. I share him. Let's start digging. Hi, it's so good to feel.

No IT is so good to see you. Ah.

thank you so much for taking the time to be with me. Let's get started.

How can I help you, Ricky OK, I duck like, I feel like I am in quick sand. And every time I try to move, I think i've been on the personal growth, the development for years. I read, like all these self helps books.

I've done programs and forty four now and I feel like life has past me by i'm in a job. I mean, his bills is not billing. Um I thought that I be in a you know relationship but have husband have kids right now but don't the relationship with myself is not where i'd like IT to be and I.

I'm in the worst strain i've ever been in my life. And I look at at myself in the mayor and I just like, okay, both thirty pounds. Where did they come from? Oh, yeah, that's right.

You made all these choices are eating bad boot, right? I don't know what to do. I don't know where to start. I don't know well, I do know where to start, but at the same time, I feel like I don't know where to start. I don't know where to go from here because I write all the books because i've done all of that stuff i'm like, but i'm still thank you .

for sharing all that. And what I got is that you're in a job that's not fulfilling, but to pay the bills that you're in the word shape of your life, you have put on an extra thirty pounds that you are not where you thought you would be in your personal life, because at the age of and forty four, you thought you would be married and have kids. And your relationship with yourself is also in the gutters. And on top of all of this, you have read all these self health books, and yet you still feel very stuck. Is there anything .

else you can na show very much? Yeah.

okay, yes. So do you want to hear the good news or the bad news?

Let's go for the bad news.

Okay, the bad news is your own attitude and story and emotions are going to be the biggest obstacle in your right.

Do .

you want another .

good news?

Yes, what happened? I saw you. Your face kind of IT go like a when I said the bad news. So what? What was your reaction to the badness?

it's. Like, I gotta do this, if this IT felt that feels over about me, IT feels like this is some work, some real work that I have to do. And IT feels like daunting.

Why does IT feel .

daunting? I feel .

like I have so much work to do. There is a insultin mountain that is just unattainable. But then there's another partner that's like, no, it's not like you can do this, you ve got this. But there's that part of me that just like rickets, not going to happen for you.

Are you experiencing the life that you want to be living right now?

No.

there's moments.

There's moments. Yeah but the overall.

okay. The reason why the mountain feels insurance able is because you've convinced yourself that .

is too late. That's the .

only reason why IT feels the work is the work and the work that will change your life and get you in shape and help you find a fulfilling career and get your life force back. The work you need to do is the same work everybody needs to do to have those things. It's the story that you're telling yourself that you already fucked up and that is too late and that it's gonna require too much and it's not gna happen. That's the only reason why you haven't gotten started. If I could tell you that the best years of your life were ahead of you, would you do .

the work? Yes, okay. yes.

great.

The best years of your life worker are ahead of you.

There's a voice in my head, right? And that voice says, this is what this S B S. And in the best years of your life, where before when you were twenty two, when you were when you were in your twenties, there's this recording back there that saying that and it's so frustrating, it's extremely frustrating because I want to believe you when you tell me that my best years are had me I have friends who tell that the best years are ahead of me.

Why can I believe that? Why can I take what you're saying and and actually truly hang on and believe in one hundred percent? That's really what I want.

There's a number .

reasons why.

Number one, you've been telling yourself the other story for so long that is not gonna happen that that's come your belief. Number two, because that spend your story that it's not gonna happen and you're sad about that your actions in your data day life, your routines, your rituals, your habits, they now match that story um you have started to a line with a person who beliefs that the best days of her life are behind you which is why you're not taking care of your health. It's why having a job that is slowly sucking your soldering but paying the bills is enough.

It's why you've given up or lowered your standards when IT comes to, uh, the kind of person that you wanna attract. Your actions keep you stuck because your actions are the kind of actions that somebody who doesn't believe that the best days of their life ahead of them are taking. And so the solution is to figure out what the data day life looks like of a woman who believes that the best days of her life ahead of her.

And by god, she's going to act that way. And I have a suspicion that something happened to you, either in your late twice or in your thirties, that not do on your eyes and not you off track. And you haven't recovered from IT because IT strikes me that you say my twenties were the best time of my life. And so tell me about what was going on in your twice that made you feel like I was the best time of your life. And then I want to know what the hell happened that .

changed IT in my money is I was more confident and I was doing the things I like. I was.

What really happened? My dad died.

can. How old you did .

that has twenty eight.

Yeah and there was after that there was depression that happened and you know um some significant break ups that happened. And I feel like those were just like probably things that push me and I just didn't really recover.

You go that's what happened. You experienced profound loss, the loss of your father, followed by the breakup of a significant relationship span around. That foundation got ripped out from underneath you. If I had a describe IT, I would say that you went through a great loss and you have spent .

a decade grieving .

and that you've spent these past couple years kind of waking up from that and being disappointed with .

where .

you are.

That's okay. It's okay. It's so easy reggy to find yourself in a situation where you read all the books, you listen to the podcast, but you do nothing, your stuck and a freeze trauma response in your body where things kinds stopped moving forward when your dad died.

And I can have this vision of you almost like hunkered down, waiting for the next thing to happen. So like you go into this mode of not dreaming, not go and for IT, like you use two in your twice to just getting through the day. And when you read all the books, you gain knowledge, right? That stays right here in your brain.

But what you're dealing with is you're dealing with something that happened to in your heart, in your soul. So that's where we're got to go to work. Is any of this landing for you?

Yeah.

I can see the wheel turning in your head, Ricky. And I can also tell that you are the kind of person who really needs a moment to process. My husband, Chris is like that too.

So I want to give you a chance to really let what we've been talking about sinking about how your dada's death is directly connected to how stuck you feel right now. And we're going to take a quick break and hear a word from our sponsors. And when we return, you and I gan explore how they connect and more importantly, what you're going to do next.

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It's so easy, rocky, to find yourself in a situation where you read all the books, you listen to the podcast, but you do nothing. You're stuck in a freeze trauma response in your body. Where things kindly stopped moving forward when your dad died.

That's me coaching a listener name, Ricky. I met rob and Ricky wrote in because she's forty four years old, her life is not where he thought IT would be. And SHE feels really stuck and we just connected the dots between her feeling stuck in her life right now and sixteen years ago when her father died. So Ricky, you've had a chance to kind of think about what we've been talking about. Do you see how your father's death is connected to how you feel right now?

You know what I just put up. So it's just like top into my head. I used to really, really love working out and I never felt like a true, but IT was just something I love to doing that I would be running.

And I but when I found, where I found out that my dad had passed away was when I was just, I just finished work out and I opened my locker and I checked my phone and I saw, I found out he passed away. I was at the gym. And after that going to the gym, I guess I still went, but I never had the same momentum IT anymore. And i'm just connecting that right now.

That is a beautiful insight, a life changing one. Because do you remember what happened is let's go back to that moment, you open up the locker, you reach and and you grab your phone. And how did you learn?

There were several messages time from my sister that were there. And so I all that. And then he had said to me, I let's great at all.

I was at the german SHE like, okay, well, just come in when you home, what's on? Something in me knew that because he was, he had been in the hospital at the time. And something in me, I ve just, just, just tell me, just tell me, just tell me. And then shape, and then stomach. See and remember.

yes, you remember, because that's a traumatic event in your life. And I got married with something that you love to do. So IT makes perfect sense that IT pulled the ease and the joy out of the thing that used to love to do.

Yeah, and it's a strange thing as that i've never really put that together, like I never really connected, that I didn't really feel like i've been grieving over for ten years. But I felt like I think about my day passing away. I feel like i've breathe and I feel like i've moved forward and I feel like i'm OK with IT if that I didn't really connect my being stuck in my life to that.

So I think you gave up on your own dreams, but you did grif Ricky. You went through a psycho logic called the acute phase of grieving, which, according to the experts, IT can last between six months to a year. And it's really personal how we experience grief.

But what tends to happen is the acute grief that just overwhelmed value of sadness and anger and questioning. And nonetheless, IT doesn't really disappear. You just adapt and you adjust to the loss, and that's what you did.

But sometimes that grief is just sticks around under the surface and IT ngs at you. And there's this heaviness and the stucky and IT just makes you feel so hard to move forward. And it's so common.

And one of my favorite experts on the topic of grief is a guy that I met named dave castle. And he created something that he calls the six stages of grieving. Now, I had heard about the five stages of grieving, but he created the six one.

And I want to tell you about IT because I think it's really helpful to move through the loss and create a different context for IT. The six stage of grieving is finding meaning, allowing yourself to find purpose again in your life and to find the meaning for you in the loss that you experienced. And when you start to look at your healing and the things that you do next is finding purpose, again, I think it's really gonna help you.

And I also don't .

want you to forget something. After losing your father and going through the cute stage of grief, you then experienced depression, and then the breakup happened. And was that breakup with somebody that you thought you were going to marry?

I did and that's weird because it's not just one relationship. IT was like everything, every relationship that I kindly got into afterwards. IT was just like I, I, I can even really explain IT. But in my mind, I believed. That more would come of that and and embarrass even like .

talking .

about this, right?

why?

why?

Because, you know, want to be that person that thought there was more than they really wasn't. And I I feel like that's what I have been. That's why and if IT hurts, yeah I can .

see why that would hurt. Consider looking at those relationships through different lands because we're going to start working on the .

story that you're telling yourself .

yeah because the relationship story is i'm a failure. I fall for people and I think that it's going somewhere and then I want me the way that I want them. I'm a failure. We just met. But I have a hunch that if you were to look back on those string of relationships that didn't work after your father died, you were showing up in those relationships with a hole that grief had created.

So when you get attached to somebody because they are feeling in need that you have, that you can't do in your own life, that's when things get out of baLance and because you were grieving and I get the sense from you because you extract ke me a little bit like me that you thought you're fine. So we're going to move on and we're going to keep working and we're going to go forward with life. And ominous ate this person and everything's okay because I don't want to scratch on that deeper thing that's really painful because i'm OK and want to be tough.

And yet you Carry all that stuff with you. And I think that's what happened in your relationships. That you were so wanting to disappear in a relationship and to feel safe again that you fall very quickly and then you must read the room and that's IT. That's all that happened again .

because of the grief.

And this is all very Normal. And when you start to see that things aren't lining up the way that you expected, you start to feel bad about yourself and you start to wonder what's wrong with me and there's nothing wrong with you. Nothing today is day one of you recall laming your happiness and taking your life back and healing what needs to be healed and defining for you what does a really fun and exciting life look like. I want to walk you through a super simple exercise.

okay OK. I can see .

you processing what emotions are coming up for you.

I don't know why. If I cry right now, it'll be really ugly, great, really sorry and great.

What are the tears about?

Putting up, I I am so used to feeling a certain way that feeling, but imagine feeling differently feels uncomfortable.

What is the way that you're used to feeling? Let IT come up.

Doesn't matter that .

how .

much good comes into my life event, like IT will never be how I want you to be. I will never get to wear other things that I desire, but though actually never will comes so close, but not for me. That happens. Everyone else around me been well, I .

definitely won't. If that you believe.

Because you .

won't let IT in.

你。

Is this the way you want experience life?

No, no.

So Ricky, i'm gonna now teach you how to flip this because if this is not the way that you won't experience life anymore, we have to change IT like right now, let's make today and this conversation day one of your new life. And that's exactly what we're going to start doing when we come back because there is a question, Ricky, that i'm gonna dig deep into with you. And for you listening, i'm going to ask you that question too.

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Mary lunch peers, fenner and Smith incorporated, registered broker dealer, registered investment advisor member, S I P C. Hey, I my rob and i'm back with ricki y. And before we went to the break, we were talking about how if you believe that IT doesn't matter how much good comes in, your life is never gona get to where you wanted to be, you have to change your belief.

And so I want to start that conversation right now with both you listening and with a Ricky who's sitting here with me. And where to start by answering this question, what would you have to change about the way you live your life, or the story that you tell yourself in order to experience your life differently? rooky?

I would have to change that story. I would have to change that belief. I would have to do things differently.

guess. And for starters, you'd have to allow yourself to cry. There been so many moments in our conversation where the silence. It's just palpable, rocky. I don't think you're just processing.

I think you are pushing down the emotions that you're feeling and tears are super important because all the tears that you cry for somebody that's died is just the love that you didn't get to express why your doubts here so the crying and letting me emotion up, it's a way to let love into your life and all the tears that you need to cry over the fact that you're not where you want to be over the baggage that your dragon around the beating yourself up, the way that event just so hard on yourself for so many years. It's like this. I drag around when you get upset about that.

It's a way to release all of that happiness. You can hear the heaviness in your voice when you talk. Ricky, I think you focused so much and just holding IT together and being strong and don't cry and don't cry and don't cry and then you're pounding on all this evidence about how things are not working.

No wonder you can't let the love in the joy in the connection and you're protecting yourself from IT. So many people do this. I did this for so many years too.

That's why I can tell that it's what you're doing. Ricky, I can tell you what to do, Ricky, and I will i'll give you the domino that you need a tip first that will trigger a tunnel change. And if you just start chip in away at IT, we can change absolutely everything.

You can lose weight, start feeling like you're in your twice again, you can change your job. You can get support and heal and really do the work to complete and feel present with your dad. You can forgive yourself for how you spent the last fourteen years. You know, all that .

the doing is .

the easy part. We got to figure out what you want to believe, and then we got to start aligning your data day actions with the belief that you want to be driving your life. And so that parts easy IT really is because it's just here's a show you need to do fuck and do IT that's IT like that, that change.

But there's a deeper breakthrough for you letting love in. And I have this visual that I used in my mind because I didn't realize how much I blocked love. I like to think about, like, your heart and your life as having a door right that separate you from the rest of the world.

And for many, many years, the door between me and my heart and soul and the rest of the world was this midnight tury steel thing that you would see on a castle that is inpenetrable. Because I didn't trust people, I didn't love myself, I didn't feel like I was worthy. I saw all kinds of reasons why I fucked things up, why I was bad person.

And as i've done more and more work to change the story about what I want experience in life, I got rid of that door, and I put kind of doors that you see in a restaurant, you know, that's got the truth, and they swing back. And fourth, because IT allows me to be more present to when i'm letting love float other people, and more importantly, when I allow the love to flow back to me. Does that resonate at .

all with you?

I'll tell you White doesn't. And maybe you can help me with IT because may i'm not seeing that. So i'm my friend that always there are my sister or that person that always there holding space for everybody else and being the rock for everybody else, I give so much love um and I do receive love.

I think that I do but maybe I don't. I don't know. I just you're shaking in your head like now.

Rocks typically don't allow a lot of loving. And if you're spending a lot of your own energy beating yourself up and feeling disappointed, that's gonna block love that everybody has to give to you. No, no, no, no, I don't need help now.

I'm okay. now. You don't have to go with me there. Now I can handle this on my own. No, I don't look good in the stress that not true.

okay.

A me .

too, how are you to?

So what .

do you think changed .

when your dad died?

I always wanted to make .

in part of me.

and when you die, I. Felt like I didn't get the chance to do that, and then I never will get the chance to do that. Even though he never said that he never told me he wasn't proud of me. He actually told me before he passed that he was. But I guess I just didn't really believe that because I wasn't proud of me, and I just never got the chance to really, I ever got the chance to read, show him .

who I could .

have been, who I believed I could be.

Thank you for going there. And that's another example of not learning love in when somebody in your life tells you that they're proud of you and you can hear that you don't believe IT. That's an example blocking love.

Your dad was always proud of you and that's always going to be true. And you choose whether or not you let that in because it's the truth. Ricky and IT will always .

be the truth.

When your dad died, you're the one who decided that there was an expiration date on you becoming the person you want to be. And in others at term, i've ve seen a lot of people talking about called quiet quitting. It's almost like you quietly .

quit on your own ambition .

and your own dreams. And so I want to reclaim that for you. Okay, what's your dada's name? So joe, joe, you joe, watching joe is proud.

You, this isn't just shit. This is your shit. And here's the .

great news. You do have .

your entire lifetime to make yourself proud and choose watching. And so your first assignment for me, I want you to write a letter to jail .

you're dad.

And I want you to thank him for being so proud you. And I want you to tell them .

that you missing and .

you still feel that is here and you thank him for being with you and guiding you and that you're writing this because you wanted to make a promise to yourself. And I promise to him that you are going to go and do some amazing things.

In your lifetime. And is he buried somewhere? Yes.

is IT .

close by. And I want you to go to his grave with the letter, and I want you to read IT to him. OK, and one of the things I also want you to do, as I want you to think back to twenty years, and I want you to think about the things that you are doing in your twice before your dad, dad, that you don't do now. What are those things?

Making more .

rest great.

I was .

I was pursuing .

some prior things cream, and I don't do that any.

What you're going to put in your letter is, and dad, one of the things that I promise to you and to me that i'm gonna is i'm going to bring back what is the creative stuff used to do, rocky.

Acting, thinking, writing.

And the reason why this is so incredible is because a job change doesn't go deep enough to change what's actually blocking your life force and your happiness. And if I were to started this conversation by going, hey, you know, you should do, you should just go act. You'd like what .

the fuck. You change .

the direction .

of your life by simply adding in the things that got lost when your life got turned upside down. And I think the act of writing that letter and going to your dad's grave and making a promise to ham and to yourself that this is what you're going to put back into your life will be a way bigger deal and a way bigger motivator than any formula that I could ever give you. You got connect the way back to your dad and back to you, giving yourself permission to be happy and to be proud yourself.

That's why.

We're done here.

Because if you give yourself permission to do that, IT will open up so much momentum and energy that you'll change your job like that. You will start exercising a taken care of itself. But that's amazing piece.

What are you getting from this conversation?

And like things are clicking that I never actually thought had anything to do with each other. You know this this conversation we're having, I had no idea IT was gonna go where I was and I at, I didn't think that my dad had anything to do with me feeling stuck. Are very surprised. Does that make sense?

When you look backwards over time and you see the events that happened and how those that accumulate and start to wear you down, and then I slowly starts to shift your data, day life and the things that you feel like doing. And you can wake up from a period like that years later, and suddenly your person that doesn't exercise anymore and you're not acting anymore, and you don't quite know why in your own life. Ricky holds the map for tapping back into your life force, energy and your joy and your momentum.

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but. I like exist. Hopeful, that's that's what I should say. I should say hopeful.

terrific. Um can you write this letter and go read IT to your dad?

I can write the letter.

great. I would love to talk to you after you've done IT.

Okay.

there's one other thing I want to tell you because um how do you .

get forty four?

okay. So let me tell some. When I was forty four, which would have been twenty thirteen, my life was not where I thought I was gonna be.

I was eight hundred thousand dollars in debt. There remains on the house. I was struggling with a drinking problem.

I was working two jobs to pair bills because my husband was so depressed and bottom out that he couldn't anything and I could barely keep. The growth is on the table and the light on our house. So when I tell you at the age of forty four .

that the .

best years of your life are ahead of you, I fucking minute. You will be .

startled by what you .

are able to achieve. You will be shocked at what an fault.

I see you smile.

Yeah, yeah. Because that sounds exciting to me. Thank you.

You're welcome. Thank you. I love you.

Wow, that was incredible. And you want to know what else is incredible? Ricky did write that letter, and he did go to her father's grave. And SHE recorded an update for you and me. Check IT out.

Hi man. It's Ricky. So I went to the cemetery to visit my father, and it's crazy just the way that I ended up turning out, because a friend of mine was driving down like IT to that area.

And the day that he was going happened to be sixteen th anniversary of the exact same day that we buried my dad, uh, sixteen years ago. So that was pretty, pretty crazy. Anyway, um I read him the letter that I wrote and I told him how much I miss ham and how i've kind of been giving up on life.

And I told me about the revelations and the aha moments that I had with you mail, and that I continued to have after our session. IT was really nice, also told me about how I haven't been showing up in my life and I can still make him proud of the life that is ahead of me, and that there's so much to my life that he is gna be able to watch and see. And by me, just because he's not here physically, that doesn't mean that he can help me and that he can still be proud of me.

I made him that promise and that i'm gonna start really living my life. And yeah, so I just wanted to say thank you. Well, thank you so much.

I just feel like everything is gonna be accelerating. I really believe that my life is going to be unrecognizable this time next year. But yeah, I think that's all I have to say. But thank you.

Alright, i'm not crying. You're crying. Oh, my gosh, I I just love this.

I love these conversations. I love sharing them with you. I believe, I believe that everything's accelerating. I believe that her life is going to be unrecognizable this time next year.

And the belief is so important, you just experienced what it's like to go from convincing yourself that you can't change and it's never gonna out for you to seeing what lies beneath the surface and what happens when you are willing to dig out those routes, when you're willing to go deep, when you're willing to do the work to truly change what you believe and mean. IT, wow. And one other .

thing .

that I always mean is that I love you. When I tell you I love you, I mean you and I always say IT, because so many people don't have anybody in their life that tells them I love you, i'm proud of you, and I want you to let that in. Let IT in.

I love you. I believe in you. I believe in your ability to stop attacking this stuff on the surface and go a little deeper, connect the dots between where you are and what might have happened to you, and do the work to make today, day one of you, believing that your life will be unrecognizable this time next year. Because if you do the work, IT will be already talk to you a few days. bye.

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