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You Are a Miracle in Motion! Secrets to Protecting Your Magic & Energy No Matter Who You’re Around!

2024/12/24
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Jamie Kern Lima: 在节假日或日常生活中,我们很容易因为各种压力和人际关系而迷失自我,忘记自身的魔力。本期节目旨在帮助你找回并保护这份魔力,即使在与观点不同的人相处时也能保持内心的平静与喜悦。 首先,要学会区分"志同道合"和"心意相通"。与其只与观点相同的人相处,不如选择那些即使观点不同,但内心善良,价值观相近的人。这样既能避免无聊,也能在不同观点的碰撞中学习和成长。 其次,面对观点冲突时,可以使用"That's fascinating"来回应,这是一种巧妙的化解冲突的方式,既能避免争吵,又能让对方感受到被尊重和倾听。 再次,要相信自己,保持真我。不要为了迎合他人而改变自己,因为你独一无二的个性和特质正是你的优势。即使不被所有人理解,也要坚定地做自己,不要让任何人夺走你的光芒。 最后,要记住,你天生就值得拥有最好的,你就是你自己的奇迹。相信自己,爱自己,你就能拥有无限的能量和魔力,在任何环境中都能保持自信和积极的心态。

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Why is it important to protect your magic and energy during the holiday season?

The holiday season brings both joy and stress, with many people around who can potentially steal your joy. Protecting your magic ensures you maintain your inner light and peace amidst the chaos.

What is the 'new F word' and how can it help during holiday gatherings?

The 'new F word' is 'fascinating.' When someone expresses a view you disagree with, responding with 'that's fascinating' helps de-escalate tension and keeps your joy intact without engaging in conflict.

How can focusing on like-heartedness rather than like-mindedness help during the holidays?

Focusing on like-heartedness, or whether someone is a good person with good intentions, helps you appreciate people even if you don't agree with their views. This approach fosters connection and protects your peace.

What does it mean to 'not dim your light' during the holidays?

It means not compromising your authentic self to fit in or avoid conflict. By staying true to yourself, you maintain your magic and inspire others to do the same.

What is the concept of 'you're not crazy, you're just first'?

It means that your uniqueness and individuality make you the first and only version of yourself in the universe. Embracing this truth helps you stay authentic and confident, even if others don't understand you.

How can you protect your magic when around people who don't understand you?

Remind yourself that your quirks and differences are what make you special. By not changing to fit in, you protect your magic and inspire others to embrace their own uniqueness.

What is the significance of the poem 'You're Not Crazy, You're Just First'?

The poem emphasizes that your uniqueness is your superpower. It encourages you to embrace your dreams and purpose, even if others don't understand or support them.

How does Jamie Kern Lima define self-worth?

Jamie defines self-worth as the belief in your inherent value and worthiness, regardless of your achievements or failures. It's about knowing you are enough exactly as you are.

What is the main message of Jamie Kern Lima's book 'Worthy'?

The book teaches how to build unshakable self-worth, overcome self-doubt, and believe in your dreams. It provides tools to transform your life by embracing your true value.

How can you maintain your magic during stressful family gatherings?

By using tools like the 'new F word' and reminding yourself that 'you're not crazy, you're just first,' you can protect your peace and stay true to yourself, even in stressful situations.

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This chapter provides two key tips to protect your magic and joy during the holidays, especially when surrounded by people with contrasting opinions and personalities. The first tip introduces the "new F word" – "fascinating" – as a response to disagreements, helping de-escalate tense situations. The second tip emphasizes the importance of staying true to yourself and not dimming your light to fit in.
  • Focus on like-hearted individuals, even if not like-minded.
  • Use the "new F word" (fascinating) to de-escalate disagreements.
  • Don't dim your light to fit in; your uniqueness is your strength.

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Jamie Kern Lima is her name. Everybody needs Jamie Kern Lima in their life. Jamie Kern Lima. Jamie, you're so inspiring. Jamie Kern Lima.

You are a living, breathing miracle in motion, a masterpiece in the making. The words of Tim's story, you are a living, breathing force for good. And sometimes, especially during the holiday season when so much is going on and so often we're around so many people of all different energies, it can be easy to feel like you're lost or almost like you've lost your magic.

So if you need this reminder today of how to remember and tap into your own magic and how to protect your light from being dimmed by all the holiday stress or even by the people causing you stress, then this episode of the Jamie Kern Lima show is for you today. And today's episode, it's going to be short and sweet and I hope a powerful one.

powerful reminder from me to you with us together of just how amazing you are. So I don't know if you have holiday plans. A lot of you have been writing in and sharing. You have a lot of holiday plans, a lot going on right now. I know for me, I'm hosting 30 family members over to my house for a week.

So let me just say, whether you're hosting one or five or you're attending, you know, a holiday celebration together, holidays can be beautiful and magical and special. And for a lot of us, our favorite times of the year, but also a whole lot of stress. And I know that's

this year, going into, you know, 2025, with the election, with all the things going on, if you're like me, you probably have a lot of family and friends that voted differently, that don't agree, that are...

dreading, dreading going to gatherings, dreading somebody might bring up something or get into an argument about something. The holidays for a lot of us can be a time where, you know, they're magical, but also such an easy time to forget we've got any magic in us at all. Like a lot of us are really stressed out and juggling a lot and dealing with a lot. So I really want to talk to you about a few tips.

that I applied in my life that maybe you could just take them away today, apply them to your life and ignite the magic inside of you back, help you not lose your joy during this holiday. And no matter who you might be spending the holidays with,

including some people maybe you don't want to be spending the holidays with, but you're going to anyway. These are going to be tips you could just pull out of your toolbox, apply them to your life, and make sure that you protect your peace and you protect your magic. So here's the thing, okay?

especially because of politics, especially because of everything going on. I'm going to share two key tips today. Okay. Two key tips. If you apply one or both, I guarantee you, you're going to feel a lot more magical this holiday season. All right. The first tip is called the new F word. The new F word. Okay. Before you freak out, hear me out on this one. So here's the deal.

It's so important, I believe, when we are thinking about the people who are around us, friends, family, that we focus on having people around us in our circle who are like-hearted, even if they might not be like-minded.

Okay. And here's the thing. When we are entering the season where so many people are divided, so many people are heated, so many people feel like they can't even talk to each other about anything, right? Let alone all be together over the holidays. It's easy to focus on the things that make us not like-minded, right? The things we don't agree on, the things that divide us. And a lot of people shut down.

And definitely do not feel magic when they're focusing on those things. Also, a lot of people feel like they've lost their connection with family and friends and loved ones. And the holidays are a very lonely season, right? So this is actually a tool to help you feel a lot more connected with the people you love and care about and to help protect your peace and your magic. It's called the new F word. Here's what I mean.

When we focus on looking at the people around us and instead of saying, are we like-minded? Should we just hang around people who think like we do? Right? How boring would the world be if we only spent time around people who think like we do, who believe like we do, who have the same opinions, who vote like we do, right? Number one, it would be kind of boring. But number two, if you are passionate about your views and about how you see the world,

You can never bring anyone else to your views and your enlightenment if you're only hanging around people who already believe exactly what you believe anyways, right? So to have influence and impact on the world, it's important to hang around people who maybe don't agree with you. That's really, really, really important. It's important to also, right, if you ever want to help heal humanity through love, it's important to...

to understand the humans that make up humanity. Like that's such an important part. So here's a tool on how to do it while protecting your peace and just protecting your magic. And it's to focus on

are the people around me like-hearted, even if they're not like-minded? So when you're sitting there with your friends, with your family, and you can't believe they voted for so-and-so, because right, in my family, I'd say it's pretty divided and both sides can't for the life of them understand how the other side voted that way. Like can't even fathom it. Like you'll hear the conversations like, they're smart. What are they thinking? Right? And I'm sure you can relate to this, maybe in your friends, your family, your peer group at work. So

Instead of focusing on the things that divide us, ask yourself, okay, they may not be like-minded, but are they like-hearted? Are they a good person? Do they want the best for the world and for their family? Do we share different values in common? Do they mean really, really, really well? If so, that might mean you're like-hearted, even if you're not like-minded. And so one tool, one tip that I do is when I'm around family,

And some of them I cannot for the life of them understand fully how they voted or what they think. I'll just look at them and be like, you know what?

I know they mean well. I know they care. I know they're a good person. I know that we're like-hearted. And that helps just de-escalate everything and helps me appreciate them, right, from a different perspective. And so here's the tool called the new F word. And this is a great tool to use. So

Let's just say you're sitting there and you're having a holiday meal or you're together for coffee or you're at a big family gathering. Someone starts going off about some issue that you adamantly disagree with, or they talk about who they voted for and you're on the complete other side and they're going on and on and on and on. Instead of engaging and getting mad, what you probably want to say is,

the more known F word, which is F-U. But instead of saying that, we're going to go with the new F word. Whatever it is they say to you and you start to feel yourself losing your magic, you want to reply with the new F word, which is that's fascinating. That's fascinating. That's it. Doesn't mean you agree with them. Doesn't mean you think they have any idea what they're talking about. But what it does is they feel heard and

And then it just kind of deescalates because they know they are not taking your joy. They are not taking your magic. So you apply the new F word. That's fascinating. Whatever they say. Uncle so-and-so says this across the holiday table and everyone's trying to eat and enjoy their thing. You start seeing people get mad right away. You're like, that's fascinating. And you keep it moving and you keep it moving because life is too short not to enjoy moments when we can.

All right, that's the first tool. Second tool today, this is going to be a good one. There's so much more coming up in this episode. You are not going to want to miss it. But first, I wanted to share this with you. In life, you don't soar to the level of your hopes and dreams. You stay stuck at the level of your self-worth. When you build your self-worth, you change your entire life.

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And now more of this incredible conversation together. Second tool today. This is going to be a good one. It's so important to remember when you're with friends, when you're with family, when you feel like, how the heck was I born into this family? Or in my case, how was I adopted into this family or that family? I have five families. So

Sometimes when we go to our families, we feel like, you know, we're the odd one out or, you know, we kind of don't belong or we don't fit in or we get tempted to dim our light or tempted to feel like, you know, nobody gets us. But here's the thing. At our core, we all need love and belonging. We all want to feel seen and heard. So the second tool is so important and it stems from this idea and concept of you're not crazy. You're just first.

Because here's the thing, and this is the truth. There is only one of you in the entire universe, right? Only one that's ever been created. So if you're actually showing up for the holidays or in your friendships or in your gatherings as who you truly are,

Don't be surprised if not everyone gets it because they've never seen another you before. There's only one of you in the entire universe. And you're not crazy. You're just first. Okay? And no one can prove me wrong on this. There's only one of you with your DNA, only one of you with the iris of your eyes, one of you with your fingerprints. You actually have your own unique tongue print.

your own unique heartbeat, right? No one else has ever seen and experienced beauty and art the way you do. No one else has had the same life experiences or feels the same thoughts or emotions that you do. There's only one of you in the entire universe. So

It's so important that when you go to your family gathering, you're hanging out and you feel like, gosh, I feel like my vibration lowering. I feel like I have to dim my light to fit in. Just remember.

The things that are strange or quirky or odd or different or unique about you, those are not the things that are wrong with you. Those are the things that are most right with you. And it's okay if your family and your friends and even your chosen family, the people you choose to spend time around, they might not always get it, right? But what's so key is you do not change yourself and become inauthentic or show up as your representative to try to fit in.

Okay, because that is the fastest way to lose your magic, whether it's in the holiday season or any other time. The most critical thing is you just remember this tool, tool number two, you remind yourself, I'm not crazy. I'm just first. You are. You're the first only ever you. So I'm going to share a poem I wrote called You're Not Crazy. You're Just First. I'm going to share these words with you.

And if you find yourself in a situation during this holiday season or in the start of the new year where you're like, oh, I feel tempted to dim my light again, or I feel tempted to play it small, or I feel tempted to just doubt I'm enough.

I want you to go back to this episode, okay? I want you to have it on repeat. You can even fast forward right to this part. Play these words for yourself over and over. Play these words over and over anytime you need this reminder. And you're going to know, you're going to know when I share this poem with you, if it speaks to your soul, if it feels true, if there's part of it, you can lean on

right? When times are tough. That is what's so important because the most important thing to keep your magic is to remember that you are.

You are fully magic. And the only way that you don't feel or believe that is when you start to doubt it yourself. No one else can take it from you. It's still there. Like they can't take it from you, right? So your job is to protect it, to keep your flame bright, to keep it ignited, right? That's your job. So here's second tool for you. I'm going to share with you.

The poem is from the book Worthy called You're Not Crazy, You're Just First. You ready? Here we go.

Who do you think you are, they say. Things like that aren't for people like us. Why are you going around changing, planning to leave us in the dust? Are you forgetting where you come from? Are we not good enough anymore? And just like that, the temptation to play life small feels more comfortable than before.

If you're doubting you're enough, your thoughts, their words have got you down. It's time for your soul to tell your mind there's a new boss in town. See, there's no one else quite like you in the entire universe. And what your soul knows is you're not crazy. You're just first. The first to have your hopes and dreams. The first you there's ever been.

So don't be surprised if they don't get you or even try to shame you to fit in. They call you odd, strange, different for having dreams bigger than they can see. Because your dreams weren't given to them, they see them through fear and anxiety. And even the well-intentioned people who love you to the bone can see you pursuing your dreams as a reminder of them not fulfilling their own dreams.

If people like people who are like them, hiding your true self's a comfort zone. But a calling unexpressed inside you leaves you feeling anguished and alone, even inside of your own home. They call you words like crazy and say we stick together for better or for worse. But what your knowing knows is you're not crazy. You're just first.

The first to launch the business, to dust your dreams off of the shelf. The first to believe you're worthy of betting on yourself. The first to beat addiction, to live life sober and awake. The first to end the generational cycle that you know you're born to break. The first to start healing. The first to forgive so you'll be free.

The first to love others for who they are, not for who you wish they'd be. The first to be a visionary, to dream up the screenplay that you'll write. The first to recognize your gifts and stop hiding in plain sight. The first man in your family to say, I deal with self-doubt too. The first mom to say, no, I'm not okay and I don't know what to do.

The first in generations to love your body and celebrate it joyfully, to prove it, to know that it's a miracle in motion and what a gift it is to move it. The first risk rejection to speak your truth with vigor, knowing the opposition might be big, but your creator is bigger.

The first to cheer yourself on and truly believe it, not just fake it, knowing most people won't cheer for you until after you make it. Perhaps in class, they used to pick you last, and now they're at a loss because instead of calling you employee, they now call you boss.

The first to stand up to the outcast and say, stop teasing. I just won't. You might be tempted to underestimate me, but let me save you some time. Don't. The first to say, you broke my heart. You gave up on me for something else. And it took me a while to know I'm worthy of believing in myself. And what I know is, yeah, you hurt me, but I'm not rejected. See, God just hid my value from you.

Because you're not assigned to my destiny. The first to recognize your circle looks a lot more like a cage. The first to say, Dad, will you love me for me? And Grandma, I was born this way. The first to turn your pain into purpose using the parts that were most rough to help guide others on their journey of feeling less alone and more enough.

The first to say, "Let's agree to disagree. We all have the right to free speech too. Stop trying to cancel and hate on others just because you're hurting too." The first to believe in your dreams, even when others might not get you. Then one day, love them anyways when they're bragging to people how they met you.

The first to unlearn the lie you're not enough unless you keep striving and achieving. That's a lie that leads to nowhere. And one, it's time to stop believing. The truth is accomplishments are great, but to know you're worthy, you don't need them. And when we know something is true, it feels like joy and tastes like freedom. You are not your successes. You're not how many times you fail or fall.

You are how big you love, and love is free for all. See, when we fear we're not enough and fear even more we won't be loved, it's so tempting to shrink in size and trade in our purpose for their hugs.

But when you're feeling like you don't fit in or that you never quite belong, your uniqueness is your superpower. Your truth is never wrong. And when they criticize to hold you back because your dreams aren't what they're used to and they're afraid that you'll outgrow them, leave them behind and that they'll lose you.

Stop asking for their advice if they've never been there themselves. Because when you people please for others, you end up betraying yourself.

And when doubt tempts you to dim your light, always remember this verse. Your soul knows you're made for more. With so much purpose, it can burst. You are born with greatness inside you. And whether it's a blessing or a curse, the world won't be better until your greatness is dispersed. See, there's only one of you in the entire universe.

And your knowing knows, deep down, you're not crazy. You're just first. You are just first. So as you're celebrating this holiday season and this coming new year, anytime someone doesn't get you or it might feel like oil and water with somebody, I want you to remember, you're not crazy. You're just first.

And don't let anybody dim your light. You are born to shine it brightly. You are born to illuminate the path ahead, right? For what your own best life could look like. And when you do that, you're illuminating the path ahead for what everyone else's best life could look like as well. And that is a blessing in this world. And I do want to say to you,

So many of us have different versions of family this holiday. I have five families, adoptive family, birth family, family, step family, chosen family, friends coming to my house who have no family, right? We're all family together. And I just want to say that I am so grateful that you are

my family in this show, the Jamie Kernley Michelle podcast in this community. I love you. I hope you repeat this episode as often as you need to remember we have the new F word. That's fascinating. And then remember anytime someone's not seeing your value,

Don't let them dim your light. Don't let them steal your magic. Don't tempt yourself to steal your own magic. You remember you're not crazy. You're just first and you have everything you need inside of you right now. You are fully worthy and you are magic exactly as you are. And if you love today's episode,

Thank you. And my only ask is that you share it. And also, if you could hit the subscribe button on your app, maybe even give it a five-star review, that would be pretty amazing. But seriously, we're all together in this season. So you share this episode with everyone else in your community.

people you believe in, they might need these tools and lessons to help make their holiday season a little bit more magical too. And I just want to thank you so much for joining me today. Before you go, I want to share some final words with you that couldn't be more true. You right now, exactly as you are, are enough and fully worthy.

You're worthy of your greatest hopes, your wildest dreams, and all the unconditional love in the world. And it is an honor to welcome you to each and every episode of The Jamie Kern Lima Show. Here, I hope you'll come as you are and heal where you need, blossom what you choose, journey toward your calling, and stay as long as you like because you belong here. You are worthy. You are loved. You are love.

And I love you. And I cannot wait to join you on the next episode of the Jamie Kern Lima Show. Do you struggle with negative self-talk? Living with a constant mental narrative that you're not good enough is exhausting. I know because I spent most of my life in that habit.

The words you say to yourself about yourself are so powerful. And when you learn to take control over your self-talk, it's life-changing. And I wanted to give you a free resource that I created for you if this is something that could benefit your life. It's called Five Ways to Overcome Negative Self-Talk and Build Self-Love.

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And if you love this incredible episode, I promise you, you're also going to love this one right here. This life-changing episode of the Jamie Kern Lima Show with Oprah, where we talk about how to hear your intuition, tap into your purpose, and discover the dream your creator has for you. It's up next, just for you.