3 Steps To Finding Your North Star: An Exciting New Approach To Designing Your Life
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It's meller rob, your friend, and welcome. Let's do this way. I'm all fun around. I'm sorry I had one. However, weekend. I was in tampa on friday, and I was giving the opening keynote at an event that my publisher, hay house, was putting on first event that they've put on in years. The theme was, I can do IT.

And when they told me that Mickey o was gona begin at around eight o'clock, my first thought was I can't do that. I am in bed by nine pm. And basically a great grandmother at this point.

When IT comes to how tired to get at the end of the day. But I realize, and so I got on that stage, and I delivered a really great talk about this sentence, I can do IT. I want to break down this simple sentence.

I can do IT. So the reason why this is such a powerful sentence is because every single word has a very important meaning for you. I refers to the fact that you're personally responsible for your life.

No one's coming. It's up to you. And as soon as you embrace this very scary notion that I am responsible for what happens next in my life, you will start taking responsibility for how you spend your time and what you do.

And the goals that you have is very important. I can, can is all about belief. I can. I can means you believe that you can do IT.

And so take responsibility, believe in yourself, do i'm the clean to do and do means you got to do something. It's not enough to believe. It's not enough to say you're responsible.

And at some point you got to put your money where your mouth is and put your ass on the line, and you ve got to take action. And now the last for IT, I can do IT. What is IT?

If you don't have an IT, you don't have shed. Not that poetic, but it's true. The IT represents your north star. And what i've found over the years is that almost everyone who gets stuck or feels lost or is wanting to make a change, they're missing one of these four things.

Either you're not taking responsibility for your life or you don't believe in yourself, or you're not taking action, or you have no or star or all four of them in some cases. And today, I wanted talk to you about the importance of a north star. What is a north star in your life? I'm going to give you a couple examples of two north stars that I have, one that has been a north star forever.

It's the rock. The rock is a north star for me, and i'll explain more as we d jump into this. And the other new star, IT, is a woman I just met, hyman shell i'd never met before my entire life.

And he came walking up to me in the lobby. SHE shared a story about how he is a major fan of this podcast, and that he just completed a fricking is at an iron man, a marathon. And that SHE listened to the podcast as a way to keep her going for the race and for her training.

Michelle immediately became minor star as a woman in her late fifties, taking names, kicking as bicycles, like taught jui italian sausage links, not like these flappy soccer that i've got that look like, and meat wings. And he had beautiful, like he just was so ripped and viBrant nor star. Michelle, thank you.

Thank you. Thank you. And that's the cool thing about our stars. You don't have to know the person.

They don't have to be famous, and you don't have to have every aspect of their life be something that is your north star. IT could be just one thing that they do or one aspect of their business. They're so much power when you allow another person to be a beacon of inspiration and hope.

And we're going to unpack how you do that today. And i'm excited to have this conversation because I have a brand new, as in hot off the presses thing to teach you. And i've only known about this thing for about hatano ten days.

And I learned IT for my daughter of all places. And the thing i'm referring to is once you know you're IT, once you've identified a north star that you want to point your life or your effort or your energy toward, i'm gonna a hand. You this super cool three part, you call a framework, you could call the process, you could call IT steps.

IT is three separate phases you need to go through as you close the gap between you and that north star. And to help me do that, I have invited amy, who is a dear friend of mine. SHE is also one of the senior producers at one for three studios she's spent on the podcast before we know .

and love amy, everyone.

and am also inviting our daughter candle to be here, because candle has two north stars for her career. And SHE has also just been through a curriculum that she's going to explain you that is grounded in three pillars, how you close the gap between you and your new star, whether your new star is somebody as enormous as the rock or beyond, say, or James patterson or Colin hover, the novell's that's taken off or Taylor swift or anybody or maybe it's just somebody that has this amazing way about them today.

We're going to break that down, and we are going to learn from kendall how to use this three step curriculum as a framework for you to close the gap so you can draw those qualities that you love into your life and make them miron. right. Let's do this. So let's start. And by you telling everybody what is that nor star that goal that you want to achieve in your career.

I would like to be a professional recording and touring artist.

One of the reasons why I wanted you to be in this conversation is because you're in the middle of that process. You've just spent four years going through these three pillars in a program that is helping you get closer and closer and a closer to achieving that goal. And for me personally, I love learning from people that are just steps ahead of me.

It's so much more accessible to me when I see somebody that's been doing the work and they're on the road ahead to my it's great that all these celebrities and recording artists and famous people get on these podcast and tell us their stories. But often times for me, when i'm looking at somebody that has already achieved the top of the top of the top, IT feels so far away from me. And for you listening, the reason why I wanted you to learn this three set process is because I believe you can use this framework to help you achieve absolutely anything in your life, because all change is an act of creation.

And can I wanted to talk to you because you've just spent four years working on this and you're in the process and you still have a lot to do to achieve what you wanted achieve. And so I just wanna thank you for being here and for sharing kind of what you've learned and what you have yet to learn on this journey to becoming a professional recording and touring artist. Can you just explain to everybody a little bit about the past four years at USA and the three pillars of this creative process that you just learned?

So I was a popular music vocalist at the third school of music. But the process that i'm about to explain to was is the underpinnings of the third school music program in the basis of our entire curriculum. M, so I will give credit to Chris sampson and the founder of the program love you, and he's the one that shine some light on this process for me and gave IT a name and gave IT context.

So thank you. In order to tell you how I used a process, that is, the underpinnings of my entire program, a process you can all use to get wherever you want in life. Whether you're an interior designer or you're a banker, or you're a mom, or you're a sister or you are an artist like me, you can use this process in your life to close the gap between where you're at currently and where you want to go.

And it's what we do IT for and for four years. And then we learn how to do IT ourselves so we can create whatever we want. And the process is three steps, emulation, a simulation and innovation.

So three steps are relation. We have means to imitate, to match, surpass some kind of achievement that you want. So that means pick a north star, pick a north star and break IT down something that you're inspired by.

Pick somewhere you want to go. Pick somebody who has more money than you that you want. Pick somebody that has a house you want anything.

So for me, I picked cerebral lis and bRandy, who are two of my favorite artists, and I broke them down there, both strong, powerful fears. They both can song write, they can sing, they can play instruments, they can arrange, they can produce their advocates. They are powerful in their career.

They collaborate those kinds of things. Once I broke them down, then IT was time for me to assimilate, which is stepped to. And a similar is the ten thousand hour rule. Step one, you find a north star.

You can start emulation phase until you have an north star.

And I think so.

wow, 哼， you gotta .

have somewhere to go.

Can you start the emulation process by simply saying I just don't want .

to be where am yes, but I think that gives you an anchor when you have somewhere to go.

you could just be the opposite where you are. I if you're somebody who's know, i'm saying, amy, what are you thinking?

I think the emulation phase, so brilliant, because picking the north star is something I think a lot of people don't even realize they can do, you know, they just feel like this is me. So who I am always gonna be. I can't change who I am.

I'm not really sure about learning new skills. I they don't even think about doing the research looking at other people. And I just think that alone is brilliant.

That alone gives you that step up to the person who you wanted become. You can just look at them and and figure out how they did IT. Okay, brilliant.

Like that like, okay. Want say that you're the person you want to be more like your north star. Whatever you want to call IT is bill gates.

You might not want to be exactly like him in all walks of life, but there might be one thing he does that you wants to emulate. Like IT doesn't have to be their entire persona. For me, for my specific project, IT was because i'm obsessed with and in love with their artistry, which is what I want to emulate. But for you, IT can be one tiny sliver of somebody's character. I have something like that.

Do you have something like that?

I have a tiny sliver example. But I want to hear you now. I want to hear your first. Well, I.

You look like, you know want to .

say now i'm like, why did I say this? Because I have to reveal my dirty secret, which is I used to watch the um housewife's series. I'm probably like all the time .

really .

yeah yeah that was yeah.

Does the producer? Yes.

SHE SHE. Lot of deep conversations about that. But anyway, a very simple, simple example. I remember there was one woman on the show that was, of course, I was controversial and fucking things up, but also really super fun and kind.

And I notice she's would say a couple of words that I would never say to people, and it's not what you think he would call people love, like, say, hey, love, how are you today? How you doing? And I just thought that was just the kindest, most beautiful thing to say to somebody all.

Thanks, love. You know, this is super tinny sliver, but he was my north star. And I, like, got up the courage to start talking like car and start being really open and being kinder to people.

And now that's a part, my van acute, you know, I say that all the time, hey, love how to on do. But that was not me in the beginning. That was not who I was.

And i'm really glad that I that I did that without knowing the entire process. That's what I did. I feel good about that.

Do you, everyone, you want to commence now.

a thing that I want to start doing now? yeah. Probably get to the point a little faster. No, yes. What is IT? IT would be from the school of rock card bodies and incredible muscular ABS. That's the school I would want to graduate from yeah, I I wanted do like a little bit of a body makeover, you know, mean, OK, yeah, right. So who would I emulate?

whose? Whose your? Who's your dream body? North star?

Yeah, i'd have to check my instagram and get their real .

names and patrol. Okay, more, Jennifer, instant. More.

more realistic for me. thanks.

Yeah, I wasn't. We were. Thanks, love. Yeah, but I like that.

Yeah, no. IT was .

risky waters that. So what .

i'm .

talking about her, and just .

go with IT. Yes.

there you go. Do you want to be like that?

Yeah, yeah, I think, look that anyway.

let's say that SHE is .

your dream .

body as SHE. Yeah, so you break .

her down. Yes, a single thing have to do every single little thing, but learn a lot about what he does. Yeah.

to assimilate IT with that .

step OK to weave IT into your own makeup, into your own being, into your own everyday life. Do yoga more, eat more Greens, what she's doing right then at the end, innovate. You're going to have to put your own amy twist on IT. Because what you to do to get your dream body is not going to be exactly what she's going to do.

That makes a lot of a sense. Let's hear word for response or for a quick and we come back. Can I got another question for you because i'm really curious about this north star moment once you determine that that bRandy norwood and cerebral lis were your nor stars?

I want you to see if you can break down the exact steps that you took next because I think it'll help all of us apply this our lives, stay with us. We'll be right back. Oh, i'm so excited to tell you about one of our sponsors or a friends. I love them.

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H, L, P, yeah. Comes a smell. E Robins. Welcome back. I ml robbins. I am so thrill that you're here with us. I'm sitting here with two people. I love our daughter, kendall Robins, who just graduated from university of southern california, and one of my closest friends, amy, who also works for one for three studios. And we've been talking about identifying a north star, which is a person that you really admire or want to emulate in your own life.

And our daughter candle had just explained that he had identified that bRandy norwood and cerebral is were her nor stars when he decided he wanted to be a singer songwriter. So can once you had those who identified, what the heck do you do? What's a step by step process? Now.

IT was time for me to learn how to be a producer, how to be an oranger, how to be an advocate, how to collaborate all of those kinds of things that I didn't already have. And that will be the biggest chunk of your journey and will take a long time for me. IT took up to four years.

It's a life long, long journey. So I will take for the rest of my life, for the rest of the time that i'm on this earth. And then once I was done assisting late those qualities that, for example, bRandy nor wood and cerebral is have in their artistry, in their humanity. IT was time for me to create something of my own.

And so once I had all the skills that I had to become to be a producer, and the skills to be in arranger, and the skills to be an advocate, and the skills to be a collaborator and a song writer and a singer, eta, I then, when and created my own music, and inherently IT will have my own twist, ona and I will have my own flavors of kendall Robins on IT. That bRandy, cerebral as will never have, but that's just the beauty of creating something of your own. And is that IT will always be a reflection of you because you're the art and I think this process of i'm an alienated out for you and more time emulation number one, a simulation number two, innovation number three.

I think is fascinating. And I can see how I can do this in my life, which is why i'm glad talking about this, especially with the example that you gave me. But for the sake of everyone listening, can you make this even more granular? Can especially that first part, because I know that's where we're all going to get tripped up. How do you get started once you have the norstar, that kind of person or that thing that you want to emulate that phase where you start imitating? How do you get moving on that I can .

explain my program and how it's structured that .

yeah in the three pillars.

will you do that? So first, in second year of U. S. A, in my program, its popular music forming, and there are popular music performance vocalist s, popular music performance songwriters, base players, dramas, guitar players, p, na players, exeter, a instrument alist and singers.

Our professors put you into bands, one drama, three singers, one base player and they assign you different songs per week. Um and the raptor begins in the fifties all the way through early two thousands into present day pop songs that we cover in class and so on. The first week of class, you get songs from the fifties and the sixties, and they assigned the songs to you, and you learn them, and you learn how to emulate them.

how to imitate them. And you are graded on, if you're a drama, can you imitate that drum technique and pattern of that exact artist like .

they're made down to the sixteen? To note down to the Miller second of the song, how accurately can you imitate? How accurately can you replicate? What what the original instrumentalists or artist or group of artists stood together? You're graded based on how accurately you can emulate IT.

So for me, IT was the intention, the freezing, the rifts, the runs, the notes. So for the first two years of my programme, that's all we did, the ten thousand hour of every single song we assigned. That was the objective.

IT wasn't to sounds like candle. IT wasn't to be the best I could be and do all my runs and do all my reefs bet as much as I could. IT was to sound exactly like the artist. And the point of that is so you can start to understand the building blocks of popular music. But I mean, for any of you listening ers, that could be to just understand where you want to go.

You talked about closing. That gap can do when you see the gap from somebody like a celeb ellis or a bRandy norwood.

I still feel very, very far from that. I'm not gonna sugar coat IT.

But is there a difference in how you view the gap?

I'm already there. What you mean? Well, I feel like I already have all of the skills that I need to have to be a professional recording touring artist. I'm just getting closer and closer to her in building and building and building.

I think I already have the skills and the tools and the knowledge just figuring out how to apply them and figuring out how to apply them in a way that gets me to where I want to go. I don't think that we should call IT a gap. Gap implies that it's a loss and it's not.

Yes, most beautiful thing in life is that space because you're gna grow when you're going to learn and you're going to fail and you're going to screw up and you're going to meet people you love and meet people you hate and meet friends you don't want. But thinking about IT as a gap is you're never gonna there. If you think about IT as a gap, it's it's the road you get to travel. It's about the journey, not about like, yes, think about IT is the gap? Yes.

think IT about IT is like gaining something .

is like a lilly pad effect. Every lilly pad you light up is yours. Now to keep .

one of the things that I found to be really interesting is that cerebrals and bRandy north, or your north star, but then you divided them into three categories of character, skill and music, career, career. And by dividing IT into categories, you now made a concrete, what are the skills that I need to gain? What is the character attributes I need to gain? What are the aspects of their career in terms of their experience that I need to gain?

Well, I just correct, you not need, want .

great that I want. okay. So why is that important to say want versus me?

Because need implies that if you don't have IT, you're at a loss. You don't need IT, you just want IT and that's beautiful.

But I think one is .

more motivating yeah that too.

I'm curious though because not everybody wants to be recording our some people listening are like I just wanna date somebody or I really want to to be healthy for me. I see this supplying these three pillars and these three steps to how do I get my personal financial life in order. I've been living in this mode of scarcity and fear ever since your dad night were nearly bankrupt well over fifteen years ago.

And I wanted graduate from that. I want to commence a whole new way of Operating. And there's a lot of skills that I need to gain on the road ahead. And I just would love to hear you talk about, okay, you identified bRandy and Sarah, but what was the next step in trying to figure out? Okay, well, how do I break a part who this person is to help me start to think about .

what I want game for me? I didn't require very much research because I feel as though I have an intimate relationship with these two artists that they don't know that I exist.

Why do you feel like you have an innate .

relations listening to their music for all of time? And i've spent thousands of hours on youtube watching their interviews and reading articles about them and reading their books and just consuming everything they put out into the world.

And so I think for all of you people that maybe want to get into a relationship or start eating healthier, making more money or so on and so forth, you might not necessarily have as Crystal clear of a north star like I did. But for example, for you, you want to graduate from your scarcity mindset in your finances. You might not necessarily have a bRandy or a sera and actual human being that exists on earth that you want to be more like.

So what instead you could do is think about that future version of you. What does the future version of mal look like? Who is financially abundant and has an abundant relationship to at what are her characteristics? What is her career look like? What are her skill sets? Imagine your future self, who's eating healthy.

What does SHE feel like every day? How did he talk to her friends? How does SHE move through the world? How does he wake up in the morning? Break that down? You can create IT from nothing.

Or you can look at women's health magazine and pick someone from in there and break them down and do the same thing. I mean, their north stars everywhere. But if you're feeling lost, the first step is finding somebody, something or someone. And IT can be the future version of you, you to inspire yourself .

for me with the financial thing. I didn't have a hoster. I just knew I was sick and tired of feeling either out of control or irresponsible or very reactive in that part of my life, and that I wanted to graduate from that and comment something new.

And the second that I made that decision, right, I got to end this. I gotta start something new, nor stars start to show up. But what i'd liked about your particular processes, I think those three columns, or genius, so I want to make sure you listening, have these declare what you wanted graduate from.

So that's something new can commence if you don't have a north star simply saying, I don't want to do IT like this anymore. For me, I was just like, i'm done Operating like this. I gotto figure this out.

I want to be proud of myself in the area, my life, and I didn't know what that. And so just declaring IT started to have all kinds of us show up. Like the first thing that happened is that is remeid came on to the podcast, suddenly the guy I can make you rich.

And that got my wheel turning. And the second thing that happened is I spent a weekend with a bunch of women that are friends of mine that have similar businesses who are way more successful than me. And as I SAT around listening to them, I like what you do one, appreciate one.

What do you do? You have a. And then, because you had shown me the three step thing, I like, wait a minute, I gotto flip this.

I can gain these experiences. I can gain these skills. I can gain this character that I don't have right now.

Well, let's make IT clear that we're an emulation phase.

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Welcome back. I melt Robins. And i'm so thrilled that you're with us because we're talking about who we admire in life and how to use them as a norstar to inspire you to change your own life.

And I just promise that I was going to reveal who my nor star is. I admire this person for a very long time. Drumle, please.

It's the rock. Okay, it's the rock. It's yeah I who doesn't love the rock. I'm so inspired by ham and there's a particular aspect about the rock that I love. It's so clear that is such a great eye.

IT is so clear that he is a person that's out there for the everyday person is so clear that he's so generous and humble and kind. And I also admire him in that he's such like got such diverse businesses. IT seems like anything he's interested in is I word pivot energy during what pivot were doing, choose pivot for launching the ux l nfl who pivot i'm going to do um this super move would private. I'm going to go do this thing and I love that about him.

You are fired up. Think this is a good .

example of north hire .

in the ballet about so i've never .

though then able to get past nor star and I can think about the moment when I was like there's my new store. IT was a singular instagram post where he had a photo of him at this huge board table. And IT was him and the person that ran seven box, their production company, the origin of which is that when he moved L. A, he only had seven box in his pocket. And he had this huge team of people launching the killer brand, and I realized, I got ta get serious about doing step one, of emulating and doing this research and breaking this soul down.

I think one of the things things I like is also that you talk about how you look at the rock, and you are kind of like, well, how do I get there from here? How do I do that? And this process gives you like OK break IT down.

I feel like there are a lot of different parts of this process where people stop. Number one, they would stop, but not knowing that they could get yeah, a noise star. Number two, they could stop by being like, well.

how do you go to feel like the rock so .

you could stop there and you could be like, you know what, i'm just never going to be like him. I'm never going to be like him, but then we have this breakdown. What's his character like?

What are his skills like? What his career like? Okay, I could put my hook s into that, like I could do that homework and get these I want, like kindle thing.

Yeah, these are things that I want and you're not going to be him. You're going to get closer. And how good is I going to feel that's going to feel amazingly ly like you must have felt great .

during this process is, you know did you I mean.

to be completely Frank, the process that I just went through, emulation assist, lation innovation. It's the way not only the artists create, but that humans create. This is literally the way that we move through the world.

It's the only way the first step is emulate, which means to match or surpass a person or achievement, typically by imitation. That's the first step. And in order to do that, to match surpassed an achievement, you've gotto break IT down.

You need to do the research. You need to understand that. And assimilated ate means to take in information, ideas or culture and understand them fully.

So how is that different than the process of studying the north star?

So you, so you study your north star, for example, years as the rock, and you say, oh, I love that he has nine businesses. 嗯， 哼， you look at his nine businesses and you pull them apart and you see what they do, that emulation. You have every little detail of the business, how many people work for them, what are they what are they registered as um how much money are they making a year? What's their audience, all that kind of stuff, you having started doing .

that for yourself, just I now I SAT and watched and I think .

i've take in that information, that idea that culture and understand .

that fully are you're .

not going to graduate mail and to and not only to but to understand that fully means to digested, means to put .

put IT in an APP .

pen and show IT in your leg, understand IT, consume, practice IT. Get in the library, read the book, figure out how to grow your ideas to the .

exact same size that if you're watching a movie and about this, this is the music, the moment of the change, right? It's like that moment where the girl gets ice skate time. School, back, all to music.

ten thousand hours of practicing IT. And I did that over four years. I took classes.

I took a lessons with my professors. I studied in my room. I saying, a hundred million songs.

IT. This is my favorite part.

is the longest part of the journey, and it's the most beautiful part because so many other things come to you while it's happening. While you're trying to take all of these qualities and characteristics of your north stars and put them into yourself, you're going to find new things out about yourself that are part of your journey that .

you'd never know. Yes, I love. I love that you said a most beautiful part because I think that's the part I most in love with you. And I think there's a romantic aspect to IT of you taking on a different way of being in your own life, you know and that you're purpose sly doing IT to be drawn happiness to um explore a skill and deepen IT like I just think there's so much beauty to that.

okay. So I know I keep going granular, but I love this three step process because I love a framework that helps you locate yourself inside of something that takes a long time. I haven't even started the emulation phase because I went on the research I had admired, i've longed for, i've felt the gap, that step zero, right? But I haven't done the research. How do you know or do you know when you get to that part when you stop looking at that north star and realize that you've become IT don't .

never become IT really i'm never gonna .

Sarah and i'm never .

gonna bRandy and you're never going to be the rock.

no. But don't you become your own nor star when you start innovating?

What i'm gonna say, which I think you need to include in the podcast in, which is why i'm onna debunk the statement you just said, is that this process never ends. It's not a gap. It's a circle.

It's not a, okay, circles done. check. We're good. We're off. No, I wrote a song two weeks ago.

I found a new artist I falling in love with. Process starts again. You create that business that the rock starts boom. You see a to kill a company that you want that has nothing to do with the rock. The research starts again, emulation assist lation innovation.

It's a circle inside of a circle inside of a circle, inside of a circle over and over and over and over and over. Which to me means that you've always bend the north star, you always will be the north star. And it's just a trusting in the fact that you're just expanding. Its not getting somewhere.

I think about bRandy and serverless as a directional signal, not a destination.

The process that I just went through emulation assist lation innovation. If bRandy and Sarah are over here, i'm expanding this way. But then I boom, it's just a constant expansion of yourself. If IT helps you to think about IT in a one, two, three so beat. But I think the beauty of this process is that it's not about the destination that you get to because you're never going to arrive where you want to be.

This is something that my professors always tell me, but people like bill gates, people like all of the motto artists that created some of the greatest records in the world, they're still making music. Some of the greatest scientists in the world are still trying to figure out different hypotheses that they come up with everyday. Why do you think they're still doing that? There's always more to create.

There's always more to get to. There's always more that you're gonna want to be. And if they thought they'd figured that out, they would have stop. There would be no more music in the generations.

It's not about figuring out is about the creative process itself.

Yeah, exactly. And that's what this is. It's not about becoming the north star.

You are the new star. Yes.

it's about just figuring out what you want to figure out in the world. And it's about figuring out what what that even means. Yes, I am my own north star, but who am I? That's what this is about not to get all now.

I love getting over. I love that.

Who am I? That's what we're kind of here to figure out, and that's just what everyone else is trying to figure out.

And I would say that the reason why the motown artists continue to create music and the reason why researchers continue to research and the reason why people that have one pulled surprises continue to do what they do is because it's not about the song or the prize. It's about the process itself that brings so much into your life.

It's about the expansion.

Yes, yes. And i've noticed that about you. I don't know about to .

get relief, don't get emotional.

I'm about to get emotional because you used to be and someday still are, but you used to be the most tightly wound gripped. It's got to be right. I'm scared like it's got to be right.

It's got to be right. It's got resisting this process. And you know how you can see in somebody that you're very close to what their gifts are like.

I can see that amy can just open up the portal and tap into this higher power. And just an extraordinary, magical, magical, magical way. And I could say that about lot. I could say that about Jessie, who is one of the kindness st, most thoughts, like the biggest heart i've ever seen in a human being for you. I've known since you were born that you're an artist and it's painful to watch somebody resist their own expansion. And what I witnessed that day, watching you deliver this senior project as I watched you like really owit and I personally believe that IT was the framework that he revealed in the process that you went through. And it's no surprise to me that days before you're giving this presentation is like what you're describing is these three pillars rates you from gripping because you can always locate yourself in IT.

Thank you for saying all that, and I appreciate you seeing my progress and seeing me, but I also think I can speak for my own personal experience. But the expansion that i've experienced over the past four years, I thought and wanted to look a very different way. For example, when I got to USA, I was just a singer.

And when I left, I expected to have an E P in twenty five original songs, and maybe to even have played a bunch of shows into maybe be going on tour, who knows? dreaming. G, that's what I wanted my expansion to be.

But through this process and through surrendering to this process and trusting in this process, emulation assist lation innovation. I've experienced expansion in ways I never knew that I would, and in ways that i'm so grateful for and would not trade twenty five songs for in a heartbeat. Yes, this process works. Yes, you can use this process, but you've got a trust that even if the rock is your north star, if IT pulls you in a completely different direction, you've just got a trust that if you stay in the process and you stay present and you say grateful, it's gonna lead you to where you need to go. Because i've learned so much about myself and about my artistry and about my humanity through this process that I never even knew was possible. And I still don't have twenty five songs and i'm still not going on tour, and I still have been played that many shows, and i'm sure those are coming for me, but I would not trade those for the knowledge that I have about me and where i'm at and where I am going for the chicken world.

What's the most surprising thing you learned by yourself through this three part process?

I would say that my biggest take away is understanding that my gift is not just my vocal chords and it's not just my ability to sing. And yes, that is god given, that is universe given. And that is something that i'm so grateful for and have no idea why someone gave IT to me.

I'm so excited to use IT and see where IT takes me. But i've realized that my gift and my artistry is so much more complex and so much more dynamic. Then just these two little things in here.

And that's true for every single person on this earth. I mean, my professor say this too, but you work on your artistry, your whole life. You work on your career, your whole life.

You work on your family, your whole life. But the art isn't that. The art is you.

We are all works of art and living this life and figuring out how to live and figuring out how to be more like your north star is just chosen away at the sculpture that is just you. And I think u. sa. Has really helped me to actually see myself as that work of art and to see that i'm just hoping on this ride of emulation, a simulation and innovation. And i'm gonna a ride this shit till up in the ground, baby.

i'm african, takes me well, i'm going to hook Michael booth to that train because the moment that you said we are all works of art and living this life and figuring out how to live and figuring out how to be more like your north star is just like chizen away at the sculpture that is you that is so beautiful. Can you are .

the artwork you get? You can create a, you can paint your own life.

yes. Wow, that was so cool. Thank you, kendall. Thank you, amy, for being here, and thank you for listening. And I have one more thing I want to add to this, because I just realized, you know, how I end every episode by telling you that I love you and I believe in you. Well, i'm doing that through the same three step process.

Twelve years ago, I heard Linda, yet women speak, and he talked about how SHE transformed the school by taking the speaker system in a public school and telling the students that he loved them and believed in them and expected them to be back in public school the next morning, dressed and ready to learn. Because SHE believed that all anybody needed to learn and to succeed in life was hope. And hope comes from knowing that other people believe in you.

And I was so moved by that that I started emulating IT. And then I assimilated IT and tried IT on in different ways. And then I innovated IT. And so my sign off to you was inspired by someone else.

And I hope today, my mission today was to have this conversation to inspire you to use this three step process to find nor stars absolutely everywhere in your life, and start to emulate a simulate and innovate those characteristic qualities and skills and make the miron. Because when you do that, you have the tools to creating a Better life and a Better version of you. And that's why I always tell you, I love you, and I believe in you, and I believe in your ability to do everything we talked about today. Now go find that nor star and use IT to inspire yourself to create a Better life. I'll see in a few days.

Oh, one more thing. It's the legal language. This podcast is presented sollie for educational and entertainment purposes. IT is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapy or other qualified professional. stitcher.

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